When I was in the 7th grade I started dating this boy Chris, we had fun and yeah it was puppy love but I was really sprung. Well in the middle of 9th grade things started to change, we were more distant & it just wasn’t like it used 2 be. I talked to him & he told me he really didn’t want a relationship, even though I was heartbroken I cant force some1 2 be with me, so I let him go. I then started playing the field & I dated a few boys but I still grew envious everytime I saw a girl huggin up on Chris. Well when I was in the 11th grade we started talking again, & he told me he missed me & wanted me to be his girl, so I accepted. We were better than before because we were older, but then some crazy sh!t happened. This girl Kim started callin my phone sayin Chris was her baby daddy. I was so confused so I asked Chris about that sh!t and he said he f***ed her but he aint know anything about a baby. She kept comin up to my job & actin a damn fool, & she was following him around 2.
2006-11-14 13:10:33 · 14 answers · asked by Ashley J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So I was tired of that dumb h0e so I got his a$$ to take a paternity test. Turns out it was his. Well even though I aint like Kim he did need 2 take care of his daughter so I told him I would help him. Well I tried but Kim was sayin she aint want me around her baby & all this bull sh!t & she was still harassin me sayin that she was still f**in Chris. I don’t believe her h0e a$$ but she is wearing me down. I love Chris but I am a damn senior, I want to have fun, I am not grown, & I do NOT have time 2 be in some baby mama drama. I know its not his fault but I really need to know if I should break up with him….HELP!!!
2006-11-14 13:10:47 · update #1
Oh my.. You are VERY young to be dealing with stuff like this.. To shed a little light in your life.. Chris knew that was his kid but he didn't want to admit it (kids just don't pop out overnight!). Chris is more than likely still having sex with her. Why have sex with one girl when you have the option of two.. Kim really doesn't care who he is being with because she knows she will have him at the end of the day because she has his baby.
Just move on.. A baby is a HUGE responsibility.. Enjoy life now kid-less.
2006-11-14 13:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by frankie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself these things about Chris. Does he show you respect? Does he hide where he goes and what he does? Have you ever had to question whether he was honest with you? If he doesn't show you respect and honor you by caring for you with his actions, I would seriously advise you to look elsewhere for a man that does. Baby mama or not. You could be the next woman to end up with a baby and no man.
If he does honor you, then you need to ask yourself, "do I care enough for him to put up with his past?" If the answer is yes, then support him, help him with his baby and try to be as nice to the mother as you can. Do your best to not get in the middle of it. If her harassment gets dangerous, then consider a protective order.
2006-11-14 13:19:34 · answer #2 · answered by Tressa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop right there...being your last year in school you have to much on you plate to be thinking about someone else problem. Think of yourself and where you want to go in life. Yes, he needs to step up and be a man. But your not the mamma! You can't solve is problems or even begin to know what he is about to go through.
If she comes by your work harassing you call the police every time. If she doesn't get the hint there is a thing called a restraining order.
Go to collage, meet the person of your dreams (later) have your own family, build a career..
LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE, have fun and enjoy our youth. Or you might regret it on the "I should have or could have done!!"
2006-11-14 13:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by ladyspryt 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront Chris and find out if he's still in fact sleeping with Kim or not.
If he is ... dump him. Nobody wants to be with a cheater. If he's not, then tell him you want to be a part of his life, but if all this drama with Kim keeps happening, you can't be. Kim doesn't want you around their daughter, so that part of his life is just his - not something you can share in.
If you're really feeling tied down and fed up with his crap, then leave him. This is all his sh*t to deal with, not yours. You're still young and baby-less, so why should you have to be tied down??
2006-11-14 13:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by Imperfect 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you are too young to go through these things being that you are probably only 17 or 18. You guys really need to have a serious conversation and be honest with one another. If he's unwilling to commit to you then you are better off alone. You deserve better and don't need to be stressed out. Stress can kill. So I suggest sitting down and having a serious conversation on work on it from there.
2006-11-14 13:21:47 · answer #5 · answered by SHAQ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I intensely dislike (my mom reported do not use 'hate') the entire toddler mama/toddler daddy concern. it is rooted in irresponsibility and chaos collectively as a newborn suffers. stay remote from the entire mess! it is extra valuable to have not have been given any guy in any respect than individual who's continually on the prowl for yet another toddler mama to advance his ego. And confident, it is the worst probability of all, which you will substitute into one extra 'toddler mama' to function to his chain, that's his existence's objective.
2016-10-17 07:18:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him now!! This situation will never change, there will always be some sort of drama with her. If you want a normal life then you should just get over him and move on. It takes time but you don't need this drama.
2006-11-14 13:14:47 · answer #7 · answered by country girl 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
of course imagine the drama if you marry him and have kids too !!! just picture it.. personally i would beat her up lol. its up to you tell your bf that his daughter can be dropped off at his house but he is not to go over there that will determine the screwing around detail they will always be connected 4 life you cant deal with that drama gf. i say leave him if they dont want to co operate! move on with no baggage this time its hard but good luck!
2006-11-14 13:16:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok,first of all,she obviously want him back,and she has his baby so is quite hard.no mattter what you two do,she's gonna be haunting you guys forever,unless chris ask her to stop doing what she's doing.and tell her that he doesnt want her,he just want to be there for the baby....if you really love him,then support him,and fight againts whoever fro him....if not,then let him go...you are too young anyway to be is a situation like this.you should be out there having fun and enjoying life.
2006-11-14 13:20:36 · answer #9 · answered by pinky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is going to be connected to her for the rest of his life so he HAS to deal with her. you are CHOOSING to deal with her. she sounds like a stupid bytch that he regrets even meeting but its not going to get better it will get worse so pack ya bags and move on its more dudes out there
2006-11-14 13:14:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋