Ok my father is 50 years old, has no job, has almost never had a job, and is now living with me, my husband and our kids. He is not in anyways sick or disabled. And he has recently begun sleep all day. Yes he dose help out with the house work and the kids every now and then but only when I tell him to. We all get along great, but I think my husband is getting tired of my father living with us and off us. My father thinks the only way he can get a job is to open his own business, only he has no money to do so and we don't have the money to give him. Pulse he never finishes what he starts anyways. Is there anyways to convince him to get a regular job and move out. I don't want him to be on the street, but I don't want him living with us forever ether. What should I do??
2006-11-14 13:05:03 · 9 answers · asked by Danielle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are not your fathers keeper!
You have a family to feed and support.
If he wants to be on the street that is his choice. Chances are he will go mooch off another poor sucker.
If he keeps living with you it will cause havoc in your relationship.
He might need tough love from you more than he needs food in front of him or a roof over his head.
PS- he is using you.
Good Luck!
2006-11-14 13:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by uzurhead 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Suggest to him that maybe he needs to go back to school to pursue his dreams of being a buisness owner in the meantime of his mid'life crisis .......while at that same time working for a temp agency ...... hopefully that will not only help him to focus on owning a buisness but he will be making money to care for his self..... also remind him that he has to rake up some social security money b/c he's not that far from retirement age.... and talk about how medicine cost , and his health might take a turn one day and he will need help taking care of his self then... but as of now you and your husband cannot continue to care for him ...when his more than able to do it his self... Good luck with this one!
2006-11-14 21:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by No 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard but you/he have to do something. he is living off of you. tell him he has to get a job or go to school and learn a trade. give him a time limit to be out. if you don't you might end up losing your husband. sometimes we have to learn lessons . if he doesn't comply he has to go on the street. there are shelters that will help him get a place of his own. does he have female friends? why can't he stay with them? you have got to cut the cord on him honey so you and your family can have happiness. good luck..
2006-11-14 21:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that as an adult he is responsible (not his child) to take care of and support himself. If he doesn't get a job look up the number to the Salvation Army and give it to him and tell him that if he can't contribute to his own upkeep than he will have to live there.
2006-11-14 21:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by BetteBoop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a deadline to move out. Tell him expenses have gone up since he moved in and refuses to work. You simply cannot afford him.
2006-11-14 21:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is how my life is going to turn out. Living with my kids and their families. I hate my life.
2006-11-14 21:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him to go get a job. if he doesnt then start makin him work for his dinner like have him do chores but dont kile TELL him to just see if he does and if he does then he gets dinner.
2006-11-14 21:08:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him to get a room and work day labor until he can find a steady job...either that or kik rocks..
2006-11-14 21:09:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him. hes your father and he'll understand.
he just needs a little pushh!
2006-11-14 21:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by jumanjifaceee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋