my ex fiancee broke up with me because he is going to irak. He knows that i love him and he says tha he love me but he has been hurt by someone else while he was in irak and he is scared that i will do the same thing. he doent wnatto be withme now but he says that when he comes back he would like for us to get back together. right now, he is just acting really wierd. one day he says that he loves me and misses me and the other day like today he didnt even say i love you too. we've been fighting letely but he knows that i love him and sometimes i can understant his decision but i am not like the other girl. is it just an excuse that he is making up? or should i understand him and leave him alone to get his thoughts straigth. i really need y'all help.....
2006-11-14 12:59:40 · 11 answers · asked by sholla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is his issue, he needs to resolve this one himself...He needs to know tho, that not everyone is the same. Because he was cheated on before doesn't mean it will happen again. What you need to do is move on, as hard as it may seem at the present moment, in the long run it will be fore the better. Just know this is not you, its him and don't wait, he will come back with the same issues.
I was in the military and i have seen oh so many times relationships end because of one or the other cheating and heck how do you know he wont cheat? it works both ways...If he really truly loves you maybe you can work things out but, know this trust is number one in a healthy relationship, no trust, no relationship....He really needs to fix himself before getting involved with anyone....
2006-11-14 13:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know better than we...what happened with the other girl?
He may be being honest...he may be using Iraq as a way to give you the brush off...regardless, I wouldn't recommend waiting for him.
IF you are still single when he returns (and he is too) and y'all want to try something again then consider it...but don't sit around waiting while he's gone, especially after he cut you loose...
He's not going to feel obligated to save himself for you, no matter what he said...
2006-11-14 13:03:21 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe he loves u, but has been hurt and let down in the past, and doesn't want to put too much faith in anyone, best thing to do is be waiting for him when he returns, waiting faithfully. i am sure theres alot on his mind, going to iraq and all, don't be too hard on him. he has broken up with u, so he won't get hurt if u do find someone else when he is away.
2006-11-14 13:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
goin to irak would be stressful on anybody, i think you should leave things be for now and see where he takes it. while he's over there do your best to prove your faithful.
2006-11-14 13:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by thinkofmealwayslver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more than love being complicated,i think it's his thinking that is,u're lucky he has made his feelings clear to you,give him time to work things out in his mind ,what he decides then should be accepted as best for both of you ,
2006-11-14 13:08:53 · answer #5 · answered by dee k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps he read the poor spelling in your love notes and figured he could find better in the desert dodging bullets...
2006-11-14 13:02:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that he is telling the truth. but you can only figure that out yourself.
follow your heart.
good luck!
2006-11-14 13:05:12 · answer #7 · answered by Raine[: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be cheating on you. He might feel guilty.
2006-11-14 13:02:41 · answer #8 · answered by lorenzo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider where he is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Life is too short!!!!
Have some patience!!!!!!
God will work it out!!!!
Do you want to wait for him????
2006-11-14 13:02:59 · answer #9 · answered by purpleone726 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was in confussion
2006-11-14 13:03:39 · answer #10 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋