Is my masturbating a moral reason for him to see other women?

Question

My husband caught me masturbating myself.I thought he was asleep.We had sex 2 hours earlier.I was discreet,on my front and needed release after I won an Oscar at Faking an Orgasm. I usually masturbate on my front so he doesnt notice, but he says he has been aware of it since we began our relashionship and it has really upset his ego.He cant understand why I would need to play with myself after sex with him and he is ENORMOUSLY PROUD of his 10 inches.I really love him though and now he says that if I want to continue with him I will have to put up with other women.

Answer 1

One evening last week, my girlfriend and I were getting into bed.
Well, the passion starts to heat up, and she eventually says, "I don't feel like it, I just want you to hold me."

I said, "WHAT??!! What was that?!"

So she says the words that every boyfriend on the planet dreads to hear...
"You're just not in touch with my emotional needs as a woman enough for me to satisfy your physical needs as a man."

She responded to my puzzled look by saying, "Can't you just love me for who I am and not what I do for you in the bedroom?"

Realizing that nothing was going to happen that night, I went to sleep.
The very next day I opted to take the day off of work to spend time with her. We went out to a nice lunch and then went shopping at a big, big unnamed department store. I walked around with her while she tried on several different very expensive outfits. She couldn't decide which one to take, so I told her we'd just buy them all. She wanted new shoes to compliment her new clothes, so I said, "Lets get a pair for each outfit."
We went on to the jewelry department where she picked out a pair of diamond earrings. Let me tell you... she was so excited. She must have thought I was one wave short of a shipwreck.

I started to think she was testing me because she asked for a tennis bracelet when she doesn't even know how to play tennis.

I think I threw her for a loop when I said, "That's fine, honey." She was almost nearing sexual satisfaction from all of the excitement.

Smiling with excited anticipation, she finally said, "I think this is all dear, let's go to the cashier."

I could hardly contain myself when I blurted out, "No honey, I don't feel like it."
Her face just went completely blank as her jaw dropped with a baffled,

"WHAT?"

I then said, "Honey! I just want you to HOLD this stuff for a while.
You're just not in touch with my financial needs as a man enough for me to satisfy your shopping needs as a woman."

And just when she had this look like she was going to kill me, I added, "Why can't you just love me for who I am and not for the things I buy you?"

Apparently I'm not having sex tonight either....but at least that b i a t c h knows I'm smarter than her

Answer 2

It is to bad some people have such closed minds when it comes to sex and relationships and even a little self pleasure. If the couple were truly open and honest with each other all along, they woudl both know what it takes to hav ethem both obtain full satisfgaction in sex and how to more fully please each other, They would also understand that one person may need more than the other and that masturbation plays an important role in any relationship.

So, you faking orgasms is not good and him being so proud of his 10 incher is jsut as bad. He is vain and you are lying and while sex and masturbastion are not sins, I suspect you'll find both being untrthful and vanity are.

Here's the deal, the bottom line -

you had better decide whether or not you want to clear the air on this whole thing wiht him or not. If you don't then part comapny with him but be very open and honest in all future relationships with yoru partner. No more faking or lying or not telling all.

If you decide try to talk this through and work it all out with him, make it very plain that the length of his penis and how proud he is are not worthy of discussion since you and all other women know that 10- inches does nto a good lover make. Only care, tenderness and lots of practice in satisfying a partner makes a good lover, And I know guys with less than 6 inches who woudl probably do way better at giving you true bliss than he does.

thus if he rant son about his dick or how it shodul be all you need, then just walk away and go find another man who truly appreciates whomever he chooses as a partner and forget the big prick.

sorry it sounds so hard line but you are both in need of some serious help to get this solved or to divorce and be free to find better people with whom to partner.

Answer 3

As a man, I must say absolutely. By masturbating by yourself you made him feel inadequate, which he obviously is. . But why are you doing it by yourself. Fore play is just masturbation, get your husband to continue foreplay all the way to your orgasm. Teach him to do it how you like it. Or ask him to watch you masturbate, it can be a big turn on for you both and by wattching you do it he can learn how you like it. It worked for me..

If he thinks that you are sick or dirty to suggest it, get yourself a lover, he is too immature for you. Let him go to other women they'll soon get tired of him, he obviously has no idea that his prick size is more important to him, than any body else.

If he loved you, as much as you believe that you love him, then he would want to learn to give you half a dozen orgasms each night instead of taking his useless 10 inches somewhere else.

And most of all stop blaming yourself, you'r only mistake was to get caught.

Answer 4

Several issues in your question
1) You're lying to him (probably to save his ego) if you pretend that you came but you didn't.
2) He's using your masturbation as an excuse to see other women.
3) He probably has self esteem issues

OK, so on to my words of wisdom :)
1) I understand why you're lying to him. Women can be enormously supportive, and part of that usually means they are less confrontational than they need to be. My 2 cents? TEACH him how to make you orgasm. And when he does it, REINFORCE what you taught him by REWARDING him. An extra wonderful BJ perhaps? Use your imagination!
2) Explore what he wants with other women. But don't listen to his words. Listen to what he's really trying to tell you. Most likely, this is a self esteem issue. He needs to feel wanted/loved/appreciated and if his manhood is threatened, he will turn to someone else to restore his pride.
3) Eventually, you'll need to look at why your husband is insecure about himself. Just talking to him and really digging below the surface will usually be enough to figure out what's wrong, but at an extreme, this may be the job of psychiatrist or marriage counsellor. Unlikely though.

Good luck!

Answer 5

No its not a moral reason for him, to see another woman, then again theres nothing wrong with self pleasure! i bet he does it when ur not around we all do it!
in any case the fact that u needed realease dosent make him a failure! some women need to orgasm more than once, but the fact that ur fakin, is not good, u maybe need to discover yourself again, maybe put on a lilttle show for him......but in no way should it allow him to treat you in such a way.
the grass is never greener. tell him that plus ur worth more than that.....there is no exuse whatsever for him seeing another woman except he's just self absorbed.
ur worth ten of him sweetie xxx---act like it too, and he'll soon see what a great lady u really are!

Answer 6

Why dont you just masterbate during sex then he can see what to do. In fact, why are you faking orgasms anyway? Why did you marry a man who can't make you ***? Why can you not discuss your sexual needs with YOUR HUSBAND?????

He doesn't get you off just lie there and say well either you do it or I will!

And don't worry about other women, he cant satisfy 1 so he aint got a hope in hell satisfying any more, will he?

Answer 7

i'm notably pleased with my 8 inches, yet i do no longer remember on my penis to hold a woman to climax. My mouth, lips and tounge; my palms and palms; and by potential of working till i discover the spot that motives her to arch her lower back and say my oh, god how do you do this? and then watch their eyes as they pull into them and that they tell me to "f" them stressful. and that i be attentive to that i'm useful, through fact they don't seem to be my spouse; i encourage them to masturbate; and that they call me lower back for repeat episodes. it is stable being a guy who somewhat thinks that obtaining a woman off is extra significant than getting off. it is humorous how those females insist on making constructive I end!! See, you are able to desire to furnish a sprint to get a sprint. So next time, make your masturbation a factor of your intercourse. you are able to certainly be taking area in your self and there could be no self-expertise. It sounds like he's an *** basically for the fact on my own. So whilst he's off getting different females, you are able to call me. i will help you masturbate. i will even teach you spots you haven't any longer discovered yet. and that i agree, he's pounding them out constantly; he's a hypocrite or only searching for justification to screw different females.

Answer 8

A lot of women masturbate after unfulfilled love making. Have you told him he is not satisying you? His "other women" stuff is rubbish. You could equally say you are going with other men to have real orgasms not fake ones.
Is it possible to talk to him about things he doesnt do that tou would find sexually exciting and stimulating? If not keep on stroking.

Answer 9

Your obviously not getting off during sex so why don't you try something to improve that situation...vibrating c ock rings!!will sit on the base of 10 inch and vibrate just where you need it. fantastic things, think durex etc. make them now but pop into ann summers or similar shop for others. Could solve situation as no need for a fiddle after....otherwise pop to bathroom!

Answer 10

What a crock! You're right there in the bed next to him, not with another man. He just is so excited to finally have an excuse cheat on you. In fact, he is probably already cheating. He is an enormous jerk - you should tie his 10 inches in a bow.

Answer 11

WHAT!?!? Let him go, he's not worth a dime. How can he threaten you with that?
Look, first off, a relationship has to be built on trust and communication, so really, if he didn't make you get there, you should have told him a long time ago. 10 inches or not, any man who loves you, will try to please you.
Second, no way on earth you can accept that threat. He has to respect you and your needs. You should have a long conversation with him as of now, and let him know what's going on.