My boyfriend of 9 years lied about how much he spent on his credit card. Should i leave him?

Answer 1

We are all probably guilty of this at one time or another in our lives. Perhaps he spent the pretend cash on something for you and didn't want you to know about it. I'd say cut the guy a little slack this time but ask him to be more truthful in the future. My fiance actually took my credit cards from me and has them hidden for emergencies only, this way I am not spending like a fool and paying 28% interest to these fine institutions that so graciously offer us these gifts on credit.

Answer 2

I gather you mean just in the last few months. Not during the whole nine years.
Cut up his credit card or tell him you will leave. All depends on how upset you are with this lie.
Asking him why and what he spent it on is important. He has to be aware if it were you lying about something how would he handle it. Lying can lead to other lies. More so if one knows they are getting away with it.
Good luck.

Answer 3

It depends. If he consistently is making major purchases on a credit card and lying about it and your finances are intertwined, it might be a good idea. However, if he spent, say, $50 on his credit card, and lied, you should tell him that you disapprove of his behaviour, but don't break up with him if he's otherwise a good guy

Answer 4

Heck, it sounds like you are really jumpin' the gun. Give us a Little more information. Is this the first time he lied to you about something important. How much money is involved. Is it a joint account or personal account.(just his). With what you given so far I would have to say no(to leaving him)..but perhaps a visit to a credit counselor is in order.

Answer 5

If you can't stand his lies, then leave. But for sure do not loan him any morney, don't let him use your credit card, and don't marry him if he has a bunch of debit that he can't pay off. Otherwise just keep on seeing him. He's footin' the bill right?

Answer 6

It depends on what he spent it on. You can't leave someone over financial issues, especially if you love him. Through thick and thin. Just as long as he didn't cheat onyou, i think you're ok. Maybe you should help counsel him with his credit card or teach him to budget or soemthing.

Answer 7

It depends. If you are sharing living expenses you might want to have a long talk with him about responsibility. If you are not sharing expenses then really what he spends is his business. If you are ever going to get married though remember his debt becomes your debt and you have to accept that with the marriage. I think it is an issue to discuss, not one to leave someone over.

Answer 8

If it's effecting you then a seperation might be in store to punish him for his lying and wrong doing.
However, if it's his credit car, he pays for it, and it doesn't concern you— then perhaps he's up to something like trying to buy you a gift. Since he's not your husband, his spendings shouldn't be much of your concern since you're not liable to pay the fee's.

Answer 9

That's up to you...there are other things to consider than lying about what the balance on his credit card is.

Answer 10

it is not uncommon for even the closest and longest-term partners to hide things from each other about money issues. not quite sure why this is, it's just statistical fact.

whatever the issue is, ask him about it, tell him why the money issue is important to you..

i don't think this is cause to end a relationship without at least having a good chat about the issue. hopefully he can gain your trust and open up his money problems to you..