I have had a crappy mother in law for 15 years. She ignores me and basically acts like I don't exist. Luckily I only have to see her a few times a year, but I'm dreading the holidays. For some reason, I always seem to be stuck in a room with her alone! Have you dealt with this situation, and if so, how do you deal with it? Please don't tell me to have my husband talk to her, he has, it's done no good. Thanks
2006-11-14 12:47:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
blazegirl: I wish I could call in sick, but she wants to see my daughter (luckily she treats her ok)
2006-11-14 12:55:32 · update #1
why are you stuck in a room with her alone? this is something YOU can control. is your husband there? are there other people there? don't subject YOURSELF to be alone in a room with her - you know it makes you feel uncomfortable - so, don't let YOURSELF be used this way. if all the family has suddenly vanished, i would find a reason to vanish, too. make up an excuse, it's too hot or too cold in the room, i think i need some fresh air. any reason to get away from being alone with her. don't allow yourself, or you husband, to put you into this position. it's up to YOU to get away from where she causes you your pain. don't give HER the power to ruin your holiday. in a life time, there really aren't that many. make the most of them and enjoy the JOY of Christmas and NOT the pain she is trying to inject. be the BIGGER person and have a MERRY CHRISTMAS don't give HER the power to ruin your holidays. just remember, YOU can be in control. good luck.
2006-11-14 13:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her a little of what she has given you a lot of. Give her the cold shoulder, act like she is not in the room and does not exist and by all means, act happy even if you are not and even if you are in a room alone with her. Find something out the window or in the room to amuse yourself with. Hell, just act like your half nuts. That might make her want to ship the rest of the holidays. Good luck
2006-11-14 12:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by shyone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say you are sick and stay at home, If she is coming to your place tell that you are feeling under the weather and you are not able to entertain her.Just fail to make plans with her this year. You deserve a holiday spent in peace and without a hassle.
2006-11-14 12:51:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not see her. Holidays are meant to be with people you love. Maybe if you show her that you are tired of it she will turn around. My mother in law always showed favoritism to my sister in laws kids, so I stopped going around. She got tired of being excluded from my kids life, and changed her ways. I know you should not put the kids in the middle, but if she can't respect you she doesn't deserve to see the kids.
2006-11-14 13:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by mistkie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cough without covering your mouth and whine to her you have a bad contagious cold. Giggle and tell her you would love to share it with her then start sneezing. Bet she leaves that room in a hurry.
2006-11-14 13:05:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play her game. Or you could try getting on her side talking about things she loves and buy her something she would absolutely love. Other than that, I don't know.
2006-11-14 12:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by xstraight_edge_emo_kidx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kill her with kindness
act like she is your best friend
walk up to her give a great big hug
and say oh how I have missed you
how are you doing ect
and just keep at it all during your time together it will drive her crazy trying to figure out just what you are up to....
2006-11-14 12:51:08 · answer #7 · answered by ladysilverhorn 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋