I moved back in with my mom after losing my job, I have small child, as well. Well, my mom and I don't get along. I have a relative that let me stay Sunday night with her. My mom wouldn't let me take my son with me on Sunday. Well, I didn't move in with the relative & I feel guilty for the way I had to tell the relative, I left here a note and left her key in home. Told her it caused too much trouble at home to move in with her. I really wanted to move in with her. But, my mom goes nuts when I said I wanted to live with her.Why do I feel so guilty?
2006-11-14 12:29:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I lost my job. I had to move out of my apartment. I work 2 jobs now. I am NOT a loser, ok. Poster below that is hurtful comments. I just feel really mixed up. I don't want all of this fighting.
2006-11-14 13:01:31 · update #1
OK- here is the deal. Cut the apron stings with your Mom. You have a child now and need to act like an adult - responsible for that child. You should NEVER leave your child. And your Mother can not stop you from taking your child with you where ever you go. Why would you have left the child with her on Sunday?
Unless, of course, you rely on your mother to do everything for you and take care of your child and your a loser- then she has every right. But, I don't know that.
You also should have talked to the relative personally instead of leaving a note. That was very immature- and not how grown ups should intetact with each other.
You should be focusing your energy on getting a job and getting settled into a place of your own- instead of worrying who you are going to be living with anyway.
Sorry for the lecture- but I calls it as I sees it.
2006-11-14 12:36:04 · answer #1 · answered by Mommyk232 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mums all over the world WILL be mums, does your mum had any unresolved issues with this relative that you mentioned? she may felt betrayed by you, her own flesh and blood, by staying with them as if you're telling the world what a lousy mum she is. mums sometimes are difficult to get along, they are a pain in (you know where) but they meant well, having said, it's up to you to make good the situation, you've made the first move by returning the key, but not to forget their kindness, bring your child over for visits, during the day, i'm sure they'll be more than happy to see both of you
2006-11-14 20:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by Dreamweaver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a bad feeling because you let your mother control you and you care what she thinks. Do what you want but always make sure your childs best interest is involved with the move. Your mother has lived her life now it is time for you. I say this only because I have a mother like that. You can do it and be as tastful as you can with your mother. We love our moms even when they drive us nuts. Just try to do your best and not end up like that. I try to with my kids too. They are now older and they know the situation and I have them remind me from time to time that I might be doing something like her that drives me crazy. Best Wishes
2006-11-14 20:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by Christa B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You move back in with your Mom although you don't get along with her..... then someone offers you to stay with her, but you decline the offer, because you feel guilty about not wanting to be with Mom under one roof. You feel guilty, because it's the way your Mom raised you.... she made you confused about what you really want- not what she wants. It's time to say, "No thanks!" to Mom.
2006-11-14 20:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moms have a power. An evil power that makes you feel wrong and them right. Just send it back to her, cos your a mom too now.
2006-11-14 20:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by QueenofLeon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because moms have that power on all of us....maybe they're witches
2006-11-14 20:33:23 · answer #6 · answered by acierman2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋