how to explain to mu husband that his assumption that are daughter are doing something wrong is causing confli

Question

my husband and daughter argue constantly because my husband assume their behaving badly and accusses them of the behavior before he ask enough question to verify his assumptions. If i try and give an explantion in their defence then he gets mad at me. If I do not get involved then he's angry that I di no say anything. My oldest daughter does not talk to her father at all and our youngset daughter is distance from him. Plus, he get hurt feeling because they do not share their lives with him. He does not particpate in family activites. If he buys them something and they do not respond to a situation the way he wants them to, then he gets angry and threatens to take it from them or do not speak to them for days. He works six days out of the week. during those times our youngest daughter, will freely come out of her room and talk to me . when they try and explain themselves he tell them what they did and how they feel, instead of hearing them out and accepting their feeling.

Answer 1

I am sorry for you!
It is not easy as a mother to see this happening. He is hurting his relationship with his daughters.
My suggestion to you is to show and tell your daughters how much you love and appreciate them. Tell them that they are the best thing that has happened to you.
I don't have any suggestions on how you can convince your husband that he is wrong. Obviously he has his own side of the story to tell.
Ultimately, make sure your daughters feel and hear your love for them.

Answer 2

MY family GREW UP yelling.

He needs to NOT yell---it is NOT getting him ANYwhere!!

When you get yelled at--you hear the yelling and NOT THE WORDS ---that may be sooo important!

You ALL need to sit down and talk.

I know, I know,--it's easier said than done. But I tell you---I married someone VERY quiet. At times, my voice tends to raise--RIGHT THEN--he cuts me off and says'" Please don't raise your voice" and IT WORKS!

We (my family) yelled soo much that I CAN"T STAND loud music or people talking loud--it ties my gut in knots!

But that's OK--I am learning from Joyce Meyer daily--not to let that type stuff stop me from enjoying my life. My PAST is PASSED!

What I am getting at is-----It is sooo important for the Dad to quit being insistent on the girls' company. BUT, the girls need to
TRY HARDER! to get closer to Dad, too.

It is a TWO-WAY STREET---meeting HALF-WAY
EVERYBODY NEEDS TO TRY.

That is your only family and you only go around once.