I have a problem and if I don't get it resolved, I know it's gonna KILL me. There's this girl named Jamie in my grade (8th). She's, well, you know what she is, just imagine the one YOU like, she's perfection. Well, anyway, here's my problem. I am kind of new to the school. By kind of I mean that I moved here around Christmas Break last year. After the first week of me being here, I liked her. Now, it's Christmas-time again so it's almost been a year. But that's not the problem. Problem is, she knows how I feel now. A month ago some girls told her, and it didn't come out the correct way, you can imagine since it came from a bunch of girls who could care less about my feelings that it's not the best way for her to find out. Now, it's all akward between her and I. Not your average level of akwardness -- really really strange. Part of my problem is that I've not uttered even a word to her. Not EVER. And we haven't made eye-contact except for since she's known -- but not before then.
2006-11-14 12:06:51 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And now she knows how I feel without knowing who I am. How am I supposed to approch her? Start a conversation with her? I don't have any classes with her and the only time I see her is lunch and in the hallways about every other day. She's a great girl, I don't think I need to explain that but another block for me, is, well, me. On the average girl's "list" I would be somewhere in the late 20's early 30's for ranking. What chance do I have? I dunno, but I need some closure with this -- it really is on my mind. It has been for a month. I guess my question is: how do I tell her really how I feel? How do I start a conversation with her so that we're both confortable? I wanna kinda go for that "we both know it -- but I'm not gonna mention it, I'll admit to it, and YOU can mention it -- but I won't bring it up so it's safe to talk to me." Please help.
2006-11-14 12:07:09 · update #1
I don't blame you.
Well, girls can be inconsiderate sometimes...ok, many times.
If she knows, what's the harm in going up to her and talking about it?
It's out already, you might as well know her feelings on it.
And, really, make friends with her before actually wanting to go out.
It's better that way.
What you do is that you tell her that although you like her, you just want to be friends for now and get to know her better. (I know this because I'm in the same problem right now, or kinda like it. See, the guy i like, who i've grown up with knew i liked him. And well, right now,we're still friends, but getting even closer.)
Get to know her. See her real feelings, thoughts, innards :)
See, right now, you're calling her perfection, but based on what? Her looks? Do you see the way she treats others, the way she carries herself, the way she handles events?
Really, just go up to her sometime and tell her that you aren't there to make any moves or anything, you just want to be friends for now and see if that can result in anything. She'll be impressed, because you actually want to get to know her. Ask her how she feels. Get to be considerate. That can also win her over. Make her feel she's special, that you care about HER, not her outer appearance (although it's gotta be PRETTY nice)
Just on a side note, how did those girls know?
2006-11-16 19:16:41 · answer #1 · answered by mangodroplet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suck it up...ask her out. If she treats you like crap, your better off..she'll no longer be perfection. And trust me..girls like a challenge just as much as guys do. Blow her off a little before you ask her out. She's gonna want to know why you are blowing her off and she'll chase after you.
2006-11-14 20:10:40 · answer #2 · answered by skybelle24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so what i would do, is give her a christmas present. like a really pretty bracelet or something, and write a note that says "I like u.- (your initials)" like u could give it to her urself, or u can aska friend that is really good friends with ehr and is really good friends with u, to give it to her!
2006-11-14 20:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by H A N N A H(: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at lunch, go up to her and say "i heard u know of secret of mine. it's not true. i was wondering if we could be friends". or sumthing along those lines. have courage!!!!!!!!
2006-11-14 20:10:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk up to her and ask her if you can walk her home or to the bus or ask her out to the movies i am sure she will talk to you
2006-11-14 20:11:16 · answer #5 · answered by amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋