What if he doesn't see you that way?

Question

I'm just curious, does anyone think that you can change the way someone sees you just by flirting with them and being interested in them? For example, if you're not normally the type they go for...in other words how do you make a guy see you as something other than a friend if that's all you've ever been.

Answer 1

I can sympathize because I fell for an amazing guy friend. The single caveat? He's got a girl friend. Since you guy is free then I would go for it. Touch his arm, try subtle flirting (should work b/c he knows you well enough to know that it's not the usual banter), if that doesn't get a response do the usual flirting routine, wear attractive clothes, a nice perfume, let him see that your into him. DO NOT DO anything different b/c you like him, like don't start acting like a ditz or all lalala bc guys get freaked out if ppl they have relied on start acting strange. Spend time with him alone and see how it goes.

Answer 2

If you like him and hes available why not flirt with him and let him know your interested in more than friendship for all you know he might have liked you all along but has just been waiting for you to get the ball rolling. Dont worry youl'll know if he's interested if you flirt with him his body language will never lie by the way theres nothing more attractive to a man than a woman who finds them attractive it plays to their ego. Goodluck hun.

Answer 3

Some times it's better to be friends, you cant change the way you feel about someone so what makes you think you can make somone feel differently about you.
The best way to get noticed is to be yourself, don't be something your not, you only end up getting hurt later down the line.
Remember friends are there forever boyfriends may not be.

Answer 4

No, you can't MAKE a person feel differently or see you differently in terms of romance. I've got a few good friends of the oposite sex. I wouldn't want to chance lossing a friendship by being flirty with them if I knew they were not interested in me that way. It could just scare them off.

Answer 5

From the male perspective, It isn't worth it. If he isn't interested in you as you are, he isn't worth a flippin' toss at a rolling donut.
My standard: If a lady is a lady as she is, and is interested in me, and I in her, I will gladly make the first move if she doesn't.
As for me, I don't have a "type" except I like a cheerful personality, one that isn't too shrewish, and one that really genuinely likes me for who I am.
As for how someone views us, those perceptions can be very hard to change. Flirting may only be annoying to him. If someone were that interested in me, I would prefer a statement, "if you want, I would like to go out with you some time, but if not, I appreciate your friendship.'
Or, my way, "If you are single and dating, I want to go out with you. Would half 7 Friday work for you, or would you prefer Sunday afternoon?"
Less hard for someone to give a flat "no."
Men are such Prats... Just ask me, I know for I can be an unthinking pain myself.

Answer 6

Be more flirty. Wear cuter outfits around him. Say he looks nice that today. In other words, stop being all friendly, act the way you would act around any boy you would like. Just don't come on too strong. That is unattractive.

Answer 7

I think you would have to "act" differently around him than you do now. You would have to be more aggressive and leave no doubt that you are interested. Just be careful, you could end up loosing a good friend.

Answer 8

Generally, no. From experience you should just tell them straight out that you're interested and then see what happens. x

Answer 9

Just be who you want to be. As long as you don't try changing for someone else and your happy within yourself.

Answer 10

girl i feel Ur pain totally..especially when u r really in2 the person.theres nothing you can do trust me.he probably doesn't like you that way,or maybe he knows he is not serious and he doesn't want to hurt you..