His ex lives in Germany and they broke up 5 years ago because she had to move back to Germany. She helped him through a big issue in his life where he says that he is eternally grateful for that. He went to Germany to see her about 9 months ago to see if they were meant to be together because he couldn't move on unless he knew for sure. Well, when he went, he realized that she wasn't the one. I met my fiance about 3 months after his trip. He said that trip made him feel like he was ready for a serious relationship. We met and fell in love and are now getting married this coming February. I believe him that he no longer sees her like that other than an old friend who was there for him at his time of need. A part of me is still jealous and wonders if he still have feelings for her. I can't be married to someone who has lingering feelings for someone else. I guess I don't know why they still have to keep in touch. Is this common? Do I hae anything to worry about?
2006-11-14 11:50:56 · 6 answers · asked by lc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Really all you can do is go on your gut instinct. I am good friends with my ex-fiancee. We have been through a lot and even since we have broken up he has been there for me. I am not interested in dating him, so I would imagine if this guy wants to marry you he really doesn't have feelings for his ex. Plus you met him AFTER he decided he wan't interested. A little jealousy is normal but I would not worry.
2006-11-14 12:50:45 · answer #1 · answered by arzachel81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are friends today and I don't know about you but that is something I can never have enough of. Fact is he tried to reunite with her prior to meeting you and realized she wasn't the one for him. They have a past together and as such he will always have some emotional attachment to her so you need to recognize this from the get go. I continue to be a friend with my ex and my fiance with hers. This is much more common today I believe than years ago when after you split you didn't see each other except if the old man was coming to get the kids for the weekend. Move past all this and have a happy, healthy relationship in your new marriage.
2006-11-14 11:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is a difficult situation. I would feel the same. But you have to be confident and still keep an eye on him. Is it worth to live a life like that? You have to ponder. I would not like it at all and I would not know how to deal with it, so, what kind of advice can I give you if I can't even give one to myself.....LOL
Good luck.
2006-11-14 11:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-24 18:31:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey mine told me the same thing and then ended up leaving me for her. you never know. you have to trust him. which i didn't. if you don't you will always think that they're trying to get back together behind your back. and they can talk, it's not hurting anyone. actually i called my ex to talk to him about the one that left me for his ex all the time, he was like my sounding board. it happens, but you have to trust him or else you might as well not even bother getting married.
2006-11-14 11:56:19 · answer #5 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife is in contact with an x from high school. i am alright with it because i know that she loves me.
2006-11-14 11:54:41 · answer #6 · answered by The Tramp Collector 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋