I have a friend who Ive had a crush on for a few months now. Recently her boyfriend broke up with her, and shes been pretty broken up about it. Now, Ive been seeing quite a bit of her recently, (dinner, etc). This past weekend, Id invited her over to my place for dinner and a movie. She lives pretty far away, so it meant that she would have to stay over for the night.
Dinner was had, the movie was watched, it was about 12AM. We were sitting on the couch. Well, we talked about this and that, and whatnot. She was sitting with her legs up on mine, and after a while, I gave her a foot massage. Well, I really wanted to kiss her, but couldnt get up the courage. Conversation flagged, and I didnt know what else to say to her. But she didnt say she wanted to go to bed either. So I suggested giving her a backrub, and we did that.
Finally, it was 5 am, and definitely time for bed. I asked her if I could kiss her goodnight, and she thought about it and said no.
What did I do wrong??
2006-11-14 11:48:49 · 8 answers · asked by Joe Shmoe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The first thing you did wrong is that you lacked confidence in yourself. If you are sitting there feeling weird and awkward, what do you think the girl is thinking to herself, as she sits there and waits for you to make the first move. She gave you a little hint, by saying that she didn't want to go to bed. You should have just took the kiss. I think it is far more romantic, I know its gentleman-like to ask, but its basically putting all the pressure on her, making her take your first move. The more confidence you have in yourself, the more likely she is not sitting there regretting coming over, or just feeling unsure of herself. Guys are not the only one that worries...well does he like me... am I doing everything right. If you would have just gently leaned in and gave her a kiss, it might have worked or it might not have, but either way you still would have got the kiss. Also you have to follow the signs if she's smiling alot and looking at you, you know that she is into you. But don't force yourself on her, you said she just got out of relationship and she needs some time to herself. You will know when the moment is right to get your kiss. And just for a confidence boost, if it was me I wouldn't have came such a far distance if I wasn't kinda intrested.
2006-11-14 11:59:29 · answer #1 · answered by **baby~doll** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You asked her ... you should have just kissed her. Look dude she came to your place to spend the night, she gave you all kinds of hints that she wanted sex and you was to dense to take the bait. If you started to do something she didn't want you could always be a gentleman and back off. Next time a woman agree to spend the night at your place at least be prepared to Shag her. You not making any type of move probably made her think you was gay or something.
2006-11-14 11:56:51 · answer #2 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rule of thumb
Never make a mood on a woman when she is vulnerable... big no no. You are asking to get your heart broken. She is not ready to move so fast, besides your hormones were raging
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2016-12-10 09:19:54 · answer #4 · answered by unck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu might have said something really stupid. You came up with an orginal version of the hippocrite. You are friend.
2006-11-14 11:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by M2J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she just wasnt comfortable kissing you so it's not you it's her.
2006-11-14 11:53:38 · answer #6 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are rushing her. She needs time before committing again.
2006-11-14 11:53:29 · answer #7 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no askee. kissie.
2006-11-14 11:51:33 · answer #8 · answered by Phoenix R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋