baby daddy ~ meets boyfriend?

Question

ok my daughter dad is coming to see us after 7 yrs, this will be the 1st time that she has seen him, she was 8 months when we left.

i am very happy to see him , problem is i have been with my bf for 4 yrs now and thing are doing going good at all, he has no job and so he did not pay the bills and they truned off his power like a week ago, and ever though i did not want to, he and his kid moved in with me.

now JW baby daddy wants to stay here when he comes down and i think that he wants to get back together but i don't let,

my questions is : what to do about the boyfriend that wount get off his *** and get a job and move the HELL out of my house

Answer 1

sounds like a good plot for a soap opera... (have the police to room the lazy scum) makes the story more interesting

Answer 2

I agree they both sound like losers.. anyways the baby's daddy hasn't seen you in like 7 years but yet he wants to get back together with you? that is just weird.. I would defiantly say to both of them .. ugh no! and with the baby's daddy there is such a thing as a Hotel that he can stay in while he visits.. and as for the Boyfriend.. he needs to go.. what example is that to your daughter having some freeloading jerk living off of you?
The only thing that should matter to you is your Daughter.. and when the baby's daddy sees your daughter please whatever u do.. make sure it is in a public place and not at your home OK.
and just know men come and go.. children look up to you and watch everything u do! So set a good example ok!
Good luck!

Answer 3

Kick him out. Give him an ultimatum, if he doesn't find a job in X amount of days he has to go to his mommy's house. As for your daughter's father, HELL NO, he can't stay with you. If he is just now coming to see his child after 7 years than there is a problem. Sounds like you need to get rid of both of those men in your life and focus on yourself.

Answer 4

My question is how do women allow themselves to get involved with guys like that?
at what point do they say, Im going to support my man, when all he does is sit on the couch all day playing video games or watching T.V.

Now if boyfriend was playing the housekeeper role, and contributing to the household in other ways, okay I can see how that arrangement works. But if hes doing nothing, well its your own fault for allowing him to do nothing.
Just a big kid who needs to be taught its time to grow up.

As far as baby's daddy..well 4 years with a bum or let back a baby's daddy. Sounds like a lose lose situation if you ask me.
Both of them need a job, AND YOU HAVE to decide which one you want in your life -- and in your house.

a man without a job, and a woman who allows it.
Well that woman is just asking for trouble

Answer 5

I'm sorry. What? I could barely understand the story line. It sounds as thugh people have been making one bad life decision after another and no one has learned much of anything.
If you'd REALLY like my opinion -- you probably don't, my answer is to go back to school, learn English and grammar. Kick the lazy jerk out and tell him he too should go back to school and then perhaps move or at least change the locks on the door.
Oh wait! If he's here illegally, you cannot kick him out. Instead, provide him with a free education, medical care, food, shelter and Social Security -- that he's never paid into. This is what our newly elected officials would have us do! You have no rights, you were born here.

Answer 6

So you don't want to be with your current boyfriend of 4 years anymore, & you want to get back with your daughter's dad?
Are you sure?! Because you haven't seen this guy in 7 years!
But anyway, if things get bad & your current boyfriend won't move out of your house... Call the Police & they will help you. If he gets really bad/agressive/psycho... You may want to get an Intervention Order on him which means if he comes near you or your property he will be breaching his Order & will be in a lot of trouble with the Police.

Answer 7

Get the useless bf out of the house, then pack up his gear, dump it all out front with a note telling him you want your life to get back to normal.
If he has his own set of keys, change the locks. Notify the police in case there are any problems with him trying to get back in.

Answer 8

surely...i'm somewhat puzzled ( are you preg returned with bf?) properly in any case, in case you do bypass to be sure toddler daddy ( i hate that element era) :) you ought to do it which incorporate your new BF out of appreciate. plainly BF is a element of you and toddlers existence, so he must be respected for looking after next mans toddler. Congrats on looking that ..yet BD has a fabulous to be around to boot.

Answer 9

he has no right what so ever in your house since you pay the bills.. i would take all of his stuff, if he has anything that is his, and put it outside of the huse while he is gone and dont onpen the doors to let him back in.. but you should bring it up one time and tell him either he steps up to his responsisbilitys or he gets the hell out

Answer 10

U should tell him he needs to do somethin or get the h*ll out.The boyfriend should be taking care of you not u taking care of him and if the baby daddy is willing to help u more than ur bf take the baby daddy and put bf on the curb.

Answer 11

Well, both of them sound like losers. Tell the boyfriend to pound pavement, and tell the baby's daddy that the only contact you want with him is for him to see his daughter. Simple as that.

Neither of them are worth your time.