I feel so sad and alone...I have no one i can talk to about my problems and sometimes i wish i was dead....?

Question

I struggle all the time with money issues and i have to provide for my daughter all by myself and at times it's so hard.I hate her father so much sometimes for being so selfish and i wish death upon him for not helping out.I don't have any friends to call up and tell how crazy my day was or just how sad i'm feeling...I'm all alone and i hate my life so much but there's nothing i can do about it right now.Please tell me something that may help!!!

Answer 1

You are NOT alone! I am a single mother also, and my daughter has a dead-beat dad. There was a time that I stood in your shoes. Just always remember this: When the times are the hardest, you do your best. When your daughter is an adult, she will always remember the hard times; but she will also remember who was there to see her through them. Her dad will have to explain himself one day. You just do the best you can with what you have to work with. When all else fails, pray! You are never alone and He is always there to listen! Things have a way of working out in the end. Quit wasting your energy on hating the lowlife and start enjoying time with your daughter now. She needs you now more than ever. He will get what is his in the end. Stop hating yourself! If you are blaming yourself, then he whens. Don't give him the satisfaction! You are going to be fine. It is not easy by no means! But you are stronger than you think. You will make it because you are a mother, and this makes you one of the strongest life forms on Earth. Email me if you want at

Answer 2

I just felt a big pit in my stomache when I read this. First, you need to be proactive for your daughter's sake and seek some support - like so many other's here have said.

I recently went through a very rough time myself - my father (whom I was very close to) passed away and my finance was cheating on my while I was spending the last few days with my dad. I lost my dad, my home, my future-step daughter and my job all in a matter of days. I didn't know what to do to get over it all. The best way was to stop focussing on my self. I started volunteering (just an hour a week) and I quickly made some friends and suddenly had a bit of a support circle but I also realised that there were others out there far worse off then me - which made me thankful for what I did have. I started a blog and each day I write down 3 things I am thankful for - somedays the things are smaller then others (there was enough milk left for my cereal this morning) or much larger (that I had known my dad for 32 years and benefited from his wisdom).

You are in a hard situation but your daughter loves you and needs you. Take care of yourself so that you can give her the things she needs most (love, support and emotional security not money).

I hope you find the support you need.

Answer 3

If you are dead where does that leave your child. This child needs you if you think you don't have anyone who loves you just look at your child's face that's an unconditional love. You are not alone. I don't know if you are religious or not but the Lord will always be there for you. My life has changed a lot since I accepted Christ in my life and church is some of the best Friends you can meet. The pastor is someone you can take to about anything. If you are having money problems your church family will be there to help you.It may take a few tries but you will find a church you like and it will be the best thing for you child to be raised in church.God Bless.

Answer 4

Check out the newspapers in your area for help. There are local, county or state agencies that can help you. I'm sure their are churches near your home you can attend. They have people you can talk to and help you through these rough times. You could meet new friends and get involved with new activities. I've been there, 2 divorces, 5 children, 2 which I had to raise alone. Look at everyday a step towards a better life. Take control of yourself and your problems.....don't sit there among them and let them get you down. Get your local Domestic Relations Department after your daughter's father for support in raising her. Good luck, keep your head up....better days are coming.

Answer 5

The best way to stop feeling sorry for yourself is to help others since you have money issues and you might not have time to do much for anybody else try to focus on your daughter just be the best mother you can possibly be if you try to forget yourself and help her ,life won't seem so bad and you'll feel like you're life has a purpose and you won't feel like giving that up.

Answer 6

i dont have any friends either and im stuck at home with two kids all day while my bfs at work and he went and brought me a dog the other day and now i have reason to get out of the house and walk its great it helps me get fit and u meet alot of ppl that r walking there dogs too at the reserve and as for the kids i still have some bad days but if u just take the time to play with them and teach them things and get involved instead of feeling like they wrecked your life i think u would find that being a mum is great with a little or alot

Answer 7

Never give up, you need to be strong for your daughter. Things may seem bad right now but it will get better. Go to a counselor for help, our township offers free counseling for those who can't afford it. Find out if you qualify for food stamps or anything else the state can provide for people who need help.

Answer 8

I have the same problem with my ex not supporting our daughter and it is going on 10 years. 7 years left They do have support groups for single parents. Also I know that my daughter will grow up knowing that when she needed stuff and/or wanted stuff it was me who provided and not her father. He will have to answer to that when the time comes. Just love your daughter unconditionally.

Answer 9

I'm sure there's support groups in your area - please seek them. How come the father of your daughter is not paying child support?

I don't know how religious you are but regardless of what religion, you should go talk to them and never loose hope. Above all, when you feel like dying please think of your daughter and how much she needs you and how much she would miss not having parents (since Dad's not in the picture) if you die.

Answer 10

Of course you can!! just plz e-mail me if you want a miles far a way friend =) someone you'll trust for many reason: being so far =P likes to listen, and have some experience in solving problems,