Ok - my mom got a little yorkie after my dad died, then had a hard time training it. I took it in and trained it. We decided it would be a great set up to share the little puppy. She spent a few weeks at my place and few at my mom's. Lately she has been spending more and more time with my husband and me at our new house - we seem to have her for 3 or 4 months at a time then to my mom's for a few weeks. My mom is starting to feel lonely and wants her back for a while. My husband is very attached to the dog and says he doesn't want to share her anymore. If she goes back she stays back. He is a very loving, compassionate man and I don't really understand why he is so upset. He claims he thought my mom had given the dog to us for good (I am not sure where he got that idea). He is very attached to her.
Any suggestions as to how I can keep everyone happy?
2006-11-14 11:08:22 · 7 answers · asked by family_matters 3 in Pets ➔ Dogs
The dog adjusts fine to going back and forth periodically - actually compared to most dogs her size she is a lot more socialable and adapts well to change, because we have been "sharing" her since she was just a few months old. I understand my mom's lonliness, as she and my dad were inseperable but I understand my husbands attachment to the dog as well - I did try to find my mom a dog (a 5-year old lapsoapso) that needs rescuing but she claims she would rather take our dog full time so WE can rescue the other little dog.
2006-11-15 00:55:42 · update #1
the only reasonable alternative I can come up with is for me to drop our dog off at my mom's in the morning on my way to work and pick her up on the way home - it will be alot of extra driving for me as it's not really "on the way" but it might help to make everyone else happy.... Then at least the our dog won't be at home alone all day either....
2006-11-15 00:58:05 · update #2
It is your mom's dog. Let her have the dog. Then, you and your husband should go to the shelter and choose your own! That way, everyone's happy and there's one more dog that's been saved from an untimely death.
2006-11-14 11:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by Esma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you and your husband have done most of the work training this puppy. Unless Mom just absolutely has to have this particular Yorkie, let your husband keep his dog and get Mom another dog, perhaps an older (already trained) dog from a local shelter. Your husband is attached to his dog and doesn't want to have the dog going back and forth all the time. I don't know how old your mom is, but there's always a chance that you and hubbie will end up with the second dog also.
2006-11-14 13:49:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get mom anotgher dog and tell her to train it herself.
I can understand your husbands feelings and how he just assumed the dog had been given to you since it spends most of it's time at your house.
That has to be emotionally draining for him as well as the dog.Wondering where the dog is today is'nt fair to them and I don't blame the man at all for not wanting the dog back if it goes again.
Your mom is very inconsiderate.That dog has feelings too.It's not a toy she can to demand to play with whenever she's in the mood and toss back to you when she's not.
It's a wonder the poor thing has'nt yet developed behavior issues from the confusion it lives in as to where it belongs.
2006-11-14 12:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by misbehavin165 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your husband is so attached to the dog, I'd offer to buy your mom a new dog. I know my boyfriend would die if I took his dog. He kisses her and tells her he loves her...she gets more affection than me sometimes! Anyways, I just know how strong the bond can get between a guy and his dog. If your mom just wants a companion, try to get her another dog. Good luck!
2006-11-14 11:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by Christy K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom and explain the situation to her. Hopefully she likes your husband and will let you keep the dog. Then get your mom another dog. Try to get one from a rescue first, please! Go and look at dogs with your mom so that it is a shared experience.
Good luck!
2006-11-14 11:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by msnite1969 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is this dog most attached to? That should be your main concern here. Decide where the dog feels most at home and leave her there - she'll never be happy being a yo-yo.
2006-11-14 11:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your mom about it and she what she may have to say about it.
2006-11-14 11:29:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋