My child is 14 and he is mature and responsible, so are the rest of the group, also all 14. He often goes to one of the other three's houses and watches movies on the weekend. They've also been out to dinner a few times, and to a couple movies in theaters. Should I let him go ot should I wait?, and I know for a fact that this wouldn't be a sex party at all, just a bunch of friend's.
2006-11-14 11:06:23 · 11 answers · asked by Yahoo Security 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is also a trust thing. I know I can trust him at home to do his chores and all.
2006-11-14 11:16:15 · update #1
Most kids my age, I'm 17, I wouldn't trust alone for a few hours let alone an entire night. Kids are quite disgusting and I remember back to when we were 14 was when things stopped being so innocent with most kids. Some of the nicest, smartest and most responsible kids I know are the ones I have recently found out are quite irresponsible with their dating habits. I was a bit shocked and hurt to hear some of their escapades from them.
But I am quite proud of the fact that I can be trusted and my parents do trust me. I know that you could leave me and my boyfriend in the same situation and nothing would go on.
So it comes down to trust and responsibility...
Is he like every other kid? or is he an exception?
What is their relationship like? Are they quite physical or no? Have they been together for a while? Are they thinking of being together for a while (and 14 is a bit young to be seriously thinking that... so much changes in just a few more years)? What do her parents think? They should be involved in this decision as well. What are the other couple like? A responsible parent should be concerned about them as well.
Why do they want this sleepover? Will they be alone at this house? (hopefully not... if so I don't think their motives are pure) If it is parentless... why can't they have it at your house? You can promise to leave them be and have the peace of mind of knowing nothing is going on. If they refuse some supervision I would throw out the idea. They have to be willing to compromise if this is something they want to do and there are no hidden motives. Even if it won't be a sex party... will it be a drinking/drugs party? Kids were drinking before they were having sex. Will they have access to a liquor cabinet? Talk to the other parents.
If he is as responsible as you believe him to be then he should recognize how much he is asking from you. If he gets too upset about not going then he isn't that responsible.
Best Luck! Put thought into it. If you are terribly concerned then don't allow him. Offer an alternative if you're cool like that. Maybe check for some all-night bowling alleys or laser tag? That's what we like to do after school dances.
2006-11-14 11:48:40 · answer #1 · answered by Allison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be a woman asking this. I have 2 14 year olds myself.
Thats great your kid is so responsible, sounds like you to communicate well. Sounds like good friends too. But....have you ever trained a dog? They say the dog should listen & obey but if you put him in a situation that is way to tempting then it is your fault not the dogs.
Lady i'm sure your kid is great but take it from a regular guy who was a 14 year old boy once. He is a walking hard on right now!
Full of hormones and he gets turned on if the wind blows. If you think i'm lieing...ask any good guy friends you have. If they disagree then they are lieing or have totally forgotten what its like to be a 14 year old kid.
2006-11-14 11:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by tieuup2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't recommend it. maybe you could have them sleep over at your house instead. if your son makes a bunch of excuses not to, maybe they were scheming to do things. i know that when i was fourteen (and i'm "responsible" too - 4.3 gpa, no drugs ever etc..) i would have jumped at the chance to make out and er...extra things with my boyfriend if given this kind of chance. i wouldn't have had sex, for sure, but i would have gotten a lot farther with my boyfriend then what my mother would have liked. Then again, i got pretty far anyway when i was 15, he was 14...so maybe you should consider that they might have already done quite a few things. movies = make-out time in my experience.
2006-11-14 11:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by Sami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, who are you kidding, if you think you know your child, your probably wrong. 14yr olds can fool you quick. I know, I was there not long ago.
But as a responsible parent, you should not allow your child to think that at his age, he can have sleepovers with girls, if you do, then I hope your ready to be called grandma in a couple years (or less)
2006-11-14 11:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by SouthernFaithVa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go...if you know for a fact that it's not a "sex party" then you have nothing to worry about, especially if you trust him. and if you know that the rest of the kids are good kids also then you know that your child is hanging around with a good crowd and you should be proud of him for that.
2006-11-14 11:11:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with her. Just because 14 sounds young, doens't mean they aren't thinking about it. I wouldn't let him, are you ready to be a GRANDma?
2006-11-14 11:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by nickie_p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if nothing sexual happens, it's still inappropriate and a responsible parent would not allow it.
2006-11-14 11:11:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are u serious, get real!That's to risky to me, sorry.now a days u never know.
2006-11-14 11:09:32 · answer #8 · answered by Lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, my parents never would have allowed that! that sounds pretty sketchy to me!
2006-11-14 11:10:38 · answer #9 · answered by skichamonix515 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
....... when I was 14, we did it every chance we got....
2006-11-14 11:08:59 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋