I was really obnoxious in middle school, weird, annoying, and only social with my best friends-all girls. Now, I have made sum guy friends, but I don't hang out with them much and I've NEVER had a bf. One of my friends gets made fun of not b/c she is really that ugly or weird, but that she PURPOSELY tries to make ppl think of her as weird, and im considered her closest of friends. I'm not trying to be mean, and i def. don't wanna be mean to her or ditch her, but we've got different interests and b/c of her i think i don't have a bf yet. I don't talk to that many boys and its hard for me to make new guy friends that will stick around with me. Any advice to shake the bad impressions ive made on ppl and break away from the stereotype I've shoved myself so tightly into.
2006-11-14 10:44:48 · 19 answers · asked by aerie anna 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PLZ don't say, 'be yourself!!!!' i know,k?!
and i'd go to parties but am never invited to any
2006-11-14 10:47:28 · update #1
alright im not that snotty type and i am not gonna ditch my friend but its not like she has HELPED me thru these rough times, she has told me she WANTS to be weird and she doesn't care if anyone cares who she is. I wouldn't even care, but i just am so lonely and want a bf and im NOT selfish and this friend...if you only knew her u'd want to kill her....YES YOU WOULD SHES SO OBNOXIOUS AND THINKS ITS FUN TO TALK ABOUT POLITICS CONSTANTLY AND IS WAY TO OBSESSED WITH LIBERALISM. I have other friends, but they assume i hang out w/ her all the time and i don't.
2006-11-14 10:53:41 · update #2
First off you are in high school! Do you know how many of those people you are gonna see after you leave high school. Maybe the reason why you don't have a boyfriend yet is because you let little things like this bother you.If that is your friend then you need to stick by her. Boys come a dime a dozen! Also if you have a problem with some of the things she is doing then talk to her about it. True friends might not agree with what the other one does but at least know which one you are. Her friend or a desperate girl in need of a boyfriend!
2006-11-14 10:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by leanthony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the impressions that people have are the worst thing, because they think everything they want. I had that problem too, especially when others do not know you, and they think you are weird or stupid, which is worse. Then I in school I showed that I know how to do a lot of good things, to be an example for everyone. Maybe that is what you should do, be yourself and try to not talk or be friends with people you really do not like, because that will just be bad for you. The most important think is that you should NOT care too much about what others say, whatever they say, one day they will learn how to estimate you, how you learned to build a self esteem on yourself.
2006-11-14 10:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by (^_^) CHiccaaqui(^_^) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...why do u care wut anyone else thinks?
trust me, if u and her had a good relationship, u shouldnt care how she makes people think of you
however, you should also take the time to show others what a good person u are and how YOU want to be...
people will think you are a bad person if u leave ur friend like that...so dont because how would u feel if u were in ur friends position?
also, dont try to impress others. be YOURSELF! its okay if u dont have a bf yet! i mean, u are in an early stage of life! no need to rush to adulthood!
i mean im only in middle school and yea ive had a couple of bfs but that doesnt make me popular....what makes me meet others and keep my old friends at the same time is a good personality and just being kind.
if u need more advice or u want to talk, pleaseee write back & pick me as best answer!!
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2006-11-14 10:52:51 · answer #3 · answered by the coolest person♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the question really is, why du want 2 change people's mind on wot they think of u?u can put up an act but it wudnt really be u!ur friends accept u for who u r but people who try 2 change u are not really worth it.changing urself will only last a short while, there are lads everywhere 4 u 2talk 2, go 2da gym, a local pub, cafe.u need 2 find confidence 2 talk 2 guys u like, ask ur friends where dey met der bf's!
2006-11-14 10:51:17 · answer #4 · answered by i am wot i am 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my friends gets made fun of not b/c she is really that ugly or weird, but that she PURPOSELY tries to make ppl think of her as weird, and im considered her closest of friends. I'm not trying to be mean, and i def. don't wanna be mean to her or ditch her\
ok about that just stay away from her and dont talk to her
and the same thing has happened to me except for the friend thing and that i am a guy but i was never really considered as a geek or anything just as a quiet kid
hope that helps
2006-11-14 10:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by ur_rich_jew 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
time.... and honestly, people who have you pigeonholed into how you used to dress/act aren't worth your time. high school is a tough period in life. i don't think the reason of not having a bf has to do with your friend, unless she is doing something so creepy it scares ppl away. just try your best to be real, pick/keep friends based on trust. i had this friend in HS who was the ULTIMATE in annoying geekiness. she wore a star-trek pin that lit up and made sounds and would randomly point it at ppl.. but she was always there to listen to my problems. I was never single in HS, so I really don't think friends have much to do with it. Maybe you can join some clubs or try to meet some other ppl from different schools? Dating people who dont go to your school is always great- dont have to see them when its over. Good luck (and remember, high school is just the beginning and it's probably one of the hardest parts of your life)
2006-11-14 10:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by teacher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the people that call you freaks or geeks. You talk to guys and soon you'll have a boyfriend. For your friend, I think you should not be afraid to tell her the truth. But cool isn't everything. Just stand up for yourself or do something really confident.
2006-11-14 10:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by Lou-Ba-Doo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just stay how you are and not care about what others think. The most attractive thing is confidence.
Embrace your so call geekyness.
2006-11-14 10:47:05 · answer #8 · answered by Alisa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just get out to some parties, get some liquor in ya, and talk to some people, with time your rep will lower, or highten in the plus :p
2006-11-14 10:46:18 · answer #9 · answered by Flames Fan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you dont ditch best friends because YOU want to be cooler. its ur own fault u dont have a bf. dont blame ur friend for ur problems. quit being selfish and stick with the friend that has stuck with u through everything!
2006-11-14 10:50:34 · answer #10 · answered by *I ♥ A.J* 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋