2006-11-14 10:37:57 · 12 answers · asked by momof3 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
she is getting in trouble for lying, and not listening. I have tried talking to her when that didnt work i tried taking away privilages, when that didnt work i tried punishment and that is not working!
2006-11-14 10:54:24 · update #1
she is getting in trouble for lying, and not listening. I have tried talking to her when that didnt work i tried taking away privilages, when that didnt work i tried punishment and that is not working! we havent moved and are not doing anything new she has had the same kids in her class since kindergarden.
2006-11-14 10:56:16 · update #2
I think that you should talk to your child and ask her what is going on, preferably see who she is hanging around because sometimes who your child hangs around can provoke them to act that way also. Also, go into the classroom and don't tell your child that you are coming but just watch her and if you can, watch her from a long distance.
Another thing that you might want to do is take away something that she loves to do. She won't act up anymore. Put her on a punishment or take away some of her priviledges. Like looking at television or talking on the phone. Don't do something that won't have an affect on her, do something that you know she loves and absolutely adores to do and tell her that she can't do it. This will get her in check and if it doesn't given her a spanking. That will.
2006-11-14 10:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by Loveisthekey 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Since the background to this is vague it makes it hard to answer properly.
The child is 7 and is getting in trouble at school?, what in particular is she doing?Are the things she is doing naughty or just what 7 years olds do.
Are you sure it is the child and not some actions by the teacher, ie the teacher has a strong personal dislike of your child. is your child being bullied , kept out of games and finding it hard to make friends?
Are there some things going on at home that is making the child act out, ie seperation, divorce? Is there some trauma in her life that makes her act out?
Does the child display the same behaviours at home?
The best thing to do is look at all the factors influencing this childs life at the moment and look at them in the context of school life vs home life. If the behaviours are the same then you need to identify the root causes for the abboration , even enlist proffesional help if need be. Be wary of those who proposs AdHd as the caus eand then zombify your child with drugs.
ADHD is the bastion of the lazy or incompetant health proffessional.
Best of all sit down with your child in a quiet area away from distractions and talk to her and LISTEN to what she has to say ? more importantly listen to what she is not saying. It could very well be that your child has the answer and is not the answer herself.
Sit down with the teacher and find out what is going on and when this happens, it could be there is an element of the teaching or even the teacher she doesnt like.
Has the teacher hurt her or singled her out.Is she held up in ridicule by the teacher to other students.
If you cannot identify a root cause perhaps asking that she change classes or even change her schools might be a solution.
That you say that you child misbehaves what can you do? indicates that as far as you are concerned there is a cut and dried position and the school has been supported over the needs of your child who is held guilty in your eyes.
Perhaps at the end of the day the problem is not your childs behaviour ..its yours!
2006-11-14 18:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter also 7 and in the second grade was getting into a lot of trouble. Talking, fooling around, taking things.
The teacher and I started talking in front of her about whats going to happen.
1st she would loose her recess.
2nd she would be loosing play time at home.
3rd when she took or broke things she would work to pay for them/replace them.
My daughter also started seeing a counselor to talk about how she can better control herself.
I keep close contact with the teacher and counselor. This has helped her to do better. Although like anyone else she still has her days.
2006-11-14 19:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a parent teacher conferance.Ground her at home no going outside until she starts to show a change.Then if that dont work no t.v. ,no phone ect. be firm.If she is really out of hand lets say and she walks out and says Im going to my friends or im running away you tell her you will call the cops and do so.Stop the crazy behavior now so it dont go to far ok.Hopefully you dont have it that bad but it can get that bad and signs are when they dont listen in school.Keep in touch with her teachers and they can steer you the right direction and pray.YOU are agood mom for seeking help because alot of moms just dont try to do anything and I dont understand that.I'ts tough being 7 maybe some counseling for her to adjust in this crazy world why not?GOOD LUCK,and remind her no matter what she does that you love her ,even though she knows when we screw up the one thing we always need to know is that were still loved,(even when we do things on purpose)
2006-11-14 18:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by pookie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't make her behave. It might be the parent behind it. Or a sister, brother etc.. Kids often misbehave when they have had an addition to the family, moved house and don't see their friends, or perhaps it's the type of television programmes they are viewing. You have to look at yourself, not the kid. Work out what you can start or stop to change his behavior. You go to the root of all problems, don't trim the top!
2006-11-14 18:42:24 · answer #5 · answered by gulliblepeople 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
even when is grown, and she continue doing it into adulthood despite your teaching. That means she did not change in the heart. (bad heart condition.) now back to the present! try to encourage her to treat others the way she wants to be treated, and try help to see honesty is better than lying. If all fails, study sometthing on something that she lovesss and take it away. you have to think about this. That means-------------------you dont want her to turn out like her future that she is heading for.
2006-11-14 19:56:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not state the trouble she gets into so that makes it hard to answer. It could be she is hyper though and it may be she is not being taught enough and is bored due to that. I suggest you take her on a quiet walk just the two of you and find out what her problem is. I found that usually helped me to get to the root of the problem when my kid acted up. Good luck!
2006-11-14 18:41:42 · answer #7 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her. Talk to her and really listen to what she has to say. The reason she is getting into trouble is there -- and that is how you will "make her behave"... by addressing the root of why she is misbehaving.
2006-11-14 18:41:01 · answer #8 · answered by Shibi 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to give her punishments. If they don't work and she keeps getting in trouble..harsher punishments. She will soon at least try not to get in trouble if she knows what will be coming.
2006-11-14 18:39:46 · answer #9 · answered by Heyhey 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
well i hope i don't afend you but do you spend time w/her@home? ..go to the movies ?just have some girl time ?help w/her homework?
2006-11-14 20:53:47 · answer #10 · answered by cindagirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋