He is in India and Im in the uk but his parents would disown him but he says he loves me,what to do??
2006-11-14 10:25:24 · 19 answers · asked by kittenpsychosex 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been to India and intend to go back.
Could anglebub email me so we can talk
it would be good to share experiences
2006-11-14 10:36:18 · update #1
He is much to young for you, physically but mostly emotionally. There is a vast difference of experiences and it is very unlikely that this relationship would work own. Don't hurt yourself and your parents by making the wrong choice, as much as your heart is leading you astray right now. Good luck.
2006-11-14 10:32:00 · answer #1 · answered by Vince 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also live in India friend but i am not a muslim I am a hindu.
Is ur friend educated he is 16 years younger than u does this pair really match.
U should be really careful about the muslims they are brainwashed here they hate us hindus and we hate them equally the muslims here are incresing population because they think that a battle will take place.They are not even taught English or Hindi but Urdu.
Have u heard of Mohmaad Atta the piolt of the 9 11 attack on the USA he flew that plane headfirst into the twin towers he was not afraid to die and killed all those people he did not have mercy on them and Atta was educated .
I do not know about ur friend.But these Muslims can be really dangerous.
2006-11-14 22:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by yeshpaltomer123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all of my experiences, a true Muslim man will ALWAYS listen to his parents, even if he is in love. Are u referring to the age difference or the fact that you may not be Muslim yourself? If it is the age difference, then there is nothing to be done about that. But if it is the latter, then this parents may only be satisfied with someone who is of the same faith. I'm sure there are many families across the globe who feel the same. But you should explore the relationship a little more and the first step, if you are truly "serious", you must get to know the family, there is no way around it. Find out their hang ups about the relationship and see if there is anything that can be resolved. If nothing can be done, if you love him, you would not want to create a wedge between him and his family. So my best advise is: find out. It's better to find out now, than to find out months or even years from now that they never wanted him to marry you. Best of luck.
2006-11-14 18:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lidya D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age would be a big problem and I'm sure that's his family's big issue. also he may just want to get out of India and what better way then to marry someone from elsewhere. i think also in India (not positive) but have heard the family's have prearranged marriages. and that would really upset his family cause that's their custom, i would just move on and let his family do their thing.
2006-11-14 23:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by kameo_44 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a kinda similar relationship. I live in the USA and I'm Muslim and I have a boyfriend who's Christian. We love each other dearly and I know I'm not supposed to be with him, but you can't help who you love. I am in love with him greatly and I know that he's in love with me as well. If his family disowns him for loving you, then they are missing out on a wonderful person. Don't worry about them, worry about yourself and your lover. I haven't told my parents yet, I'm waiting till I turn 18 (and I'm going to turn 17 in about 2 weeks), but even if they disapprove, I know what my heart feels and who I want to be with. I love my boyfriend and you should feel the same. Let nothing like that stop your love.
2006-11-14 18:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by Angelbub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many questions here to give you any kind of logical answer.
What ,you have no likeable men in the UK?
Personally, I'd either communicate as friends with him online, ONLY..........Or forget it altogether. What's the point? Do you plan to go to India???
2006-11-14 18:30:22 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you Muslim? If you're not, then typically non-Muslim marriages are frowned upon, although there is debate that a Muslim man can marry a non-Muslim woman and vice versa. If you convert you'd have to convert because you want to, not because you want to be with him.
If he really loves you, he'll find a way, and so will you.
2006-11-14 18:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by Bookworm 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
YOU HAVE 3 DILEMAS HERE 1. AGE 2. RELIGION/CULTURE 3. GEOGRAPHY 1ST WHAT EVER HAPPEN TO AGE BEING A STATE OF MIND. i HAVE SAME PROBLEM, BUT FEEL THAT I WOULD RATHER BE WITH YOUNGER PERSON STILL WILLING TO LIVE LIFE TO FULLEST THAN WITH OLDER, SET IN WAYS WITH ALOT OF BAGGAGE. 2ND RELIGION/CULTURE ARE A VERY STRONG PART OF A PERSON, ESPECIALLY WHEN DEALING WITH RADICALIST, DON'T BE DECEIVED, WEIGH POSSIBILITIES OF HIS MOTIVES AND 3RD, SOUNDS LIKE A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONS WITH TOO MANY OBSTACLES, HE MAY BE LOOKING FOR WAY OUT WITH ESTABLISHED OLDER WOMAN. DON'T TURN YOUR DREAM INTO A NIGHTMARE, PRAY FOR GUIDANCE AND GIVE IT TO A HIGHER SOURCE
GOOD LUCK
2006-11-15 05:50:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard of trying to get out of the country? That's what he is doing. He just wants to be with you to get out of India on your money.
2006-11-14 18:29:28 · answer #9 · answered by DispatchGirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
even though there is no age bar in love ,it is better to think before you make a firm decision.
2006-11-14 20:58:33 · answer #10 · answered by egrfethe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋