Would you discipline another person's child if they hurt yours?

Question

Let's say the other parent was not around. You would tell them the whole thing later. Here and Now. what do you do?

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Answer 1

I have found myself in this position quite a few times in the last year or so. When my children play outside I am one of the only parents who supervise there children when they play. Anyway, there are a couple of boys we have had problems with and I found that the best way to deal with it is the way the play ground monitor at school deals with it. That is based on the action. If it was something not to out of line then pull them to the side have them sit down for 5 minutes, talk with them, ask if they understand that I will be telling ther parents and then let them resume playing. On other occasions when the offense is more serious, tell them it is time for them to go home, if that is not an option separate them completely, either by leaving, or giving one of the children another activity, tell them how serious you consider this to be and let them know your telling there parents.

I have found most children will respect this and most parents appreciate being told about there child's manners and behavior. It is also important to let the parent know the good points also though. If the parent doesn't care to much or thinks things weren't very serious it's time to end the children's interactions.

BTW, I don't have a problem speaking up when a child hurts someone else's child either, not just my own.

Answer 2

If you were the person in charge of the child(not some kid walking down the street or in a store) then yes. My rules are my rules, if you are in my house or on my property. I would never physically discipline them but a time out is appropriate at any age whet er it be sitting down away from other kids, no TV, no phone etc. Yes I would mention it to the parent because chances are the child will say something anyway and you be the adult should be the first. Discuss it with the parent as soon as possible so the child can give his side of the story and you can work it out. Parents tend to side with their own and face on is the best way.Make sure you and your child accept responsibility for any wrong doing as well.

Answer 3

Definitely do not touch the other child. And it is also risky to discipline them at all. Only minimal things should be said to the other child to indicate that they need to stop what they are doing. It really depends on your relationship with the other parents. If they are close friends then they might be okay with you giving appropriate verbal discipline, but if they are not close to you then they could very easily get offended by your actions. People do not want to be told they are doing something wrong, especially when it comes to their kids. So I would say take minor step to separate the children and then tell the parent later what happened and let them deal with the discipline. Even if nothing happens it is not your responsibility. Tell you child how they should act in these situations and that they should never hurt someone else intentionally like this child has hurt them.

Answer 4

If the other parent was not there I would definately discipline them. Them not being there puts you in charge. I would tell the child's parent what he did and what you did to stop the behavior. If they are good parents they will appreciate it. Most parents don't want there children going around hurting others. If they are not satisfied with your level of punishment they can handle that at home.

Answer 5

To be honest I think only the parents/guardian of the child should discipline them, especially with older kids.
It is ok to warn them that you will tell their parents or tell them they are wrong, you most definitely should not spank them, or use your own disciplining methods.
My hisband and I have a very unique and different way of punishing and disciplining our kids, other parents disciplinging them may end up going against it or undermine our efforts.
If someone reports bad behavior on the part of my child when i am not around my God will they be punished(two fold) but it is mine and my husbands job.

Answer 6

depends on if you're in charge of the child. and how old the child is. #1. If the child is less than 8 you've lost all value in punishment by asking this question first. You must punish immediately to be effective.

#2 - If you are in charge of the child, you can punish them (with parent's permission) with things like Time out - or taking away toys, movies, something like that.

#3 - Make sure you know what happened in the situation - did your child do something first? If so both problems need to be addressed.

Answer 7

Yes! And I have done. A little boy kept trying to take things from my daughter and was really getting physical, he was about two and a half, possibly three, and my daughter is only 18 months. I stepped in and told him off...children need the discipline there and then other wise they don't know why they are being punished.

Answer 8

I would not lay a finger on the other kid but I'd yell at the other kid and you bet I would tell the parent. (unless the kids at an age that he does not understand anything, then I would just get done to his level and tell him he can't act like that and take my kid and walk away and do something else). I would hope there parent would give them the spanken...if not I would not let my kid pay with them anymore.

Answer 9

Yes. Discipline is teaching. Punishment is different. Depending on the age of the child, you could tell the child that hitting is not ok and that we are not allowed to hit. If the child continues to hit then he may not play with your child.

Answer 10

I would disapline the child but not abuse them some parents now adays cant tell the difference. and yes i would tell the parent. the parent should know if their child is being abusive.