I asked her today about her sexual fantasies and I eventually got out of her that she wouldn't mind trying it with another girl involved....
I'm not sure what to think... I mean most guys would go crazy at the idea, but because SHE brought it up, it seems diffferent.
Do you think I should go along?
Is my girlfriend crazy?
2006-11-14 10:18:01 · 35 answers · asked by needsadviceonlove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go for it but let her set the pace. It is after all her fantasy. Make the 3rd person from out of you area / county. You don't wan t to see them i Tesco's next week. However fantasies are fantasies fro a reason. There better that way. If a fantasy must be played out, start with a less risky one, say your good lady wants to make love to you in a field. Try this first (mind the law here), if the realisation doesn't come up to scratch, then think on, do you want to try the big one. Maybe try having sex with you r lady with a female just watching (if you can find woman to oblige). \if you don't like it then you've still been as close without breaking the monogamy of the relationship.
2006-11-14 11:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by pauljdavy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A fantasy is just that. A FANTASY. Once you actually do it, it's no longer a hypothetical.
Even if she's into it (or thinks she is) so many things could go wrong. You might look at the other girl in a way that she doesn't like or inadvertantly pay more attention to the other girl or do some other ridiculous thing that your girlfriend will hold against you for the rest of your life.
Cheating is cheating. Even with "permission". Just remember that a few weeks or months later you'll be aruguing about something totally different and she'll start bringing this up. "Do you think ________ is better at ___________ than me? ??? Do you think she has nicer _____________ than me? ??? You wish you could be with her DON'T YOU!!!!!!" No matter what you say she won't believe you. It's not worth it, dude.
2006-11-14 10:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by loves2fly84095 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think your g/f is crazy but i would be very wary of it cause it would most definitely change your relationship.If your not comfortable with it then I wouldn't do it because if you do you may regret it and you may always wonder if she liked being with the girl more and she may wonder if you like being with some1 else besides her more.It all depends on your relationship and how jealous you each may become thinking that you want others beside each other.It can make and break a relationship.So take alot of time a think is that what YOU really want .Its not gonna kill her if she doesn't get a threesome and if she wants to break up over it then the relationship wasn't meant to be.Stick by your standards and think about where the relationship would end up after having a threesome.Good Luck :)
2006-11-14 10:26:39 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My girl friend said the same thing to me many years ago. I of course said YES. Now she only prefers women, a closet lesbian. She still has threesomes, all with women though. I have a new girlfriend and NO I will not be trying that again. Be careful she might prefer women to men.
2006-11-14 12:01:43 · answer #4 · answered by philip s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is perfectly normal.
YOU however are not for doubting it.
You absolutely should go along but make sure you talk it out with her and figure out what the ground rules are.
(things you don't want each other to do with the third girl and the third girl's role in the threesome).
Good luck.
2006-11-14 10:21:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
While it may be fun for all parties involved, don't forget about the consequences. My advice really depends on how much you value your relationship with your girl. Is she gonna get jealous if you are into the other girl? Are you gonna get jealous if she's way into the other girl? Things could get weird. But could also be fun. Make sure you and your girl discuss it before hand.
2006-11-14 10:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by sapphire 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why should it feel different because she brought it up - women have fantasies. Are you turned on by the thought? If you both want to to it talk it through carefully. Have fun
2006-11-14 21:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by John H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a big can of worms you are opening , think about it ,double check with the girl friend that it is what she wants and not what she thinks it is what you want to hear....then if it is what she wants and after much thought think about it some more .... in the end its up to the pair of you ... good luck...ps let us know how it all turns out ?
2006-11-14 10:51:28 · answer #8 · answered by loveb00ts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girl is not crazy, your just lucky. Take advantage of the experience.
Even though 3sums are overrated, if you have never had one, having one, two, or three can be fun as long as you guys can keep your emotions in check afterwards.
2006-11-14 10:22:53 · answer #9 · answered by BionicNahlege 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She isn't crazy. If you are up for it, do it. It will be fun for both of you. Find out what she feels comfortable with you doing to the other girl, or if you can touch her at all before you get there, though. If you don't set boundaries, it can end up disastrous.
2006-11-14 10:21:54 · answer #10 · answered by deliannathaniel 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋