Just a question. Say if one knows that girl one is going to marry is not a virgin and she used to have so many affairs in past, should one marry that girl. Given a condition that girl has now changed and she is very serious and commited to the guy. Let me know ur views..plz reply ...
2006-11-14 10:12:01 · 30 answers · asked by vivek_ya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You marry someone because you love them - not because they have or haven't done certain things in the past.
2006-11-14 10:23:27 · answer #1 · answered by Chrys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahh what a delicous question. thank you.
lets see, a virgin is the most desirable isn't it? well maybe, or maybe not. a virgin has not had sex. that doesn't mean they weren't thinking about it. Jesus said somewhere if you think about grabbing a girl then the way he sees it you've already done the bad thing.
bummer. I mean really who hasn't at least thought about it?
so, if in God's eye, we're all sort of messed up, I'm glad he forgive us. I know I need it 24/7. Oh wait, that's my brother who needs it 24/7 I'm down to 19/6
so, maybe a girl with a past would be a good choice. she's been around and could make a guy very happy. I suppose having a super model virgin would be nice too but maybe that's pushing things a bit.
I think if you love the person, you can over look that she is a bit short in the virginity dept. maybe she can overlook you being short in other department. come to think of it, maybe wer'e all a bit short in some department
peace out short person
frankie C.
2006-11-14 10:21:17 · answer #2 · answered by frankiechocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This being the 21st century and all, virgins over the age of 18 I'm guessing make up only about 3% of the population. If you can find a good girl without a past than your a lucky guy and should stick with that one....
2006-11-14 10:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Virginity is not what it used to be back in the older days..It is 2006 and not many younger people stay virgins until they are married..If this girl has "changed" then I say go for it if you love her..Changing takes time though..Maybe years..Trust means everything in a relationship and without trust a relationship will not last too long..If you love this girl & trust her then go for what your heart is telling you to do..Remember its 2006 and loosing your virginity before marriage is usually what happens these days...Good Luck & I Wish You Lots of Happiness!!!
2006-11-14 11:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by Izaak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering my estimated age of the author, I doubt marriage should not be on one's mind, especially if the lack of virginity is such a big issue.
Marriage isn't just if you love a person, it's whether you can live with that person and enjoy them even when infatuation and lust have worn off. It's also about trust, commitment, and values. It is very easy to seem committed and serious in the beginning of a relationship, but it takes the test of time to reveal the truth.
2006-11-14 10:25:20 · answer #5 · answered by katelybug 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How long have they dated? I think if you love someone for who they truly are then you love them without restrictions. We have all made mistakes, sometimes you have to go through a lot to become who you are, and that is what your marrying not her past. Isn't there things in your past that she could look at and wonder about?
I would look at her morals, values and integrity! When you say affairs do you mean cheating?
If you mean she was permiscous and know has changed than for how long and why has she changed. You must know her and love her for her and not judge her past, if you can't do this then don't marry her, but if you can love her for who she is now then listen to your heart. Good luck!
2006-11-14 14:15:35 · answer #6 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd marry a woman it is a virgin alongside with me being a virgin, and get married as virgins. so as that first evening adventure could be the ultimate for the two one human beings. i'm a male 20 and nonetheless a virgin myself. I waiting for that precise individual to marry and adventure intercourse with for the 1st time.
2016-12-10 09:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on your relationship and her commitment. Some premarital counseling will help determine where each of your hearts are. Just because she had a few relationships before doesn't make her more prone to be unfaithful to you.
Be sure you know her well. Spend a year or two knowing her heart. Be sure you know her family. What do your parents think of her? You need to take all these things into consideration. Parents have a lot of wisdom. Open yourself to this wisdom.
Also, be sure you are both tested for VDs. It is best to take precautions and be safe.
2006-11-14 10:18:06 · answer #8 · answered by mar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell this "one" guy 2 listen 2 what his heart tells him and 2 consider that she had man affairs before and that's not a numer 1 helping thing 4 fidelity. But if he thinks he really considered her mistakes and is willing 2 change... why not???.
4-giveness is the mother of all un-selfish reasons and we all have a right 2 change.
oxox,
Little Cowy
2006-11-14 10:16:31 · answer #9 · answered by Golden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, yes. She has been open about her past and will probably be willing to be tested for STDs. (As a showing of support, you should get tested with her--even if you are a virgin--so she won't feel as uncomfortable or judged by you.) If she is as in love and committed as you say, her history shouldn't matter. What matters are the present and the future.
2006-11-14 10:59:14 · answer #10 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people do change now when you say affairs what does that mean she cheated on her ex b/fs then that would be a problem but if they were just past b/fs then theres no reason not to marry her because it was the past before the person that wants to marry her.......every one has things in there past that there mates wish they can change but if they really love this person and the other the same then they can learn to forgive and leave it in the past............
2006-11-14 10:19:30 · answer #11 · answered by mari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋