My father is mad at my mom's brother's family. (Basically my dad is mad at my uncle) This started when i was about 5, and they never made contant or resolved the issue. I think its because of a money related issue or something with my cousin and me...not even sure myself because they never want to tell me. But i love my cousins soo much and i hate that we're kinda lying to my dad by still talking to them. We have been thinking that we should resolve this problem soon, why stay angry for 20 years? So i am wondering, how could this problem be fixed? Or should we leave this problem alone?
Also, my dad has a bad temper sometimes, and i am a little worried about that.
2006-11-14 10:11:52 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Actually, my whole uncle's family thinks we should end this problem. My mom does too, but she does think it could be their fault. She says maybe they hurt dad and he is should be angry at him. (well she is kinda at the midde, my uncle her brother, and her husband)
2006-11-18 06:16:50 · update #1
Tread carefully........
I have it on good authority .. some parents can hold grudges like forever....... You do not have the life experience to negotiate a cooling of the men folk ... don't try. Ask you mom what the fight is about..... only after you have a full understanding should you proceed... And even then get with you mother or your Aunt to do the actual pushing & prodding of the two stubbon men folk .... if you try you will seem medalsome and little pushy ..... Don't go there.
I hope there is nothing stopping you and your cousins from e-mailing or writing to each other ..... at least keep in contact with them on your own .... If all else fails you can have the relationship with your Uncle later on when your older.
Keep Clear of adult arguments .... climbing into the fray will only get you hurt.
Be Safe.
2006-11-14 11:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i tell you something right now this is a really hard question to answer so make sure you choose the right one. my advice is that first you need to make up a plan. with steps too. if your dad has a bad temper work on that test him and stuff. then talk about your uncle to him. if he refuses to talk to you about that or if he won't tell you the for sure reason why he is mad at him then you need to rephrase your words. tell him how good it would be if your dad and your uncle were friends. and how much you want them to be settled. my trick to use in this situation is say that is what you really want for Christmas. and make sure they are not just putting on an act so you will be happy for Christmas because I've watched alot of movies and that is what they do you know.
2006-11-14 18:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by §▐Your Dream Guy▐§ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let them be. Somethings should be left on their own. As long as you and your uncle's family and you mom and her brother are okay. Otherwise, try somethin like calling the two of them to a place without telling them the other will be there and tell them that you are sick of this
2006-11-14 18:15:43 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the issue is not between the cousins. if you are grown you should tell your dad that you have chosen to have a relationship with your cousins.
2006-11-14 18:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by orangesensational 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that they should just stay away from each other if there going to fight everytime they get near eachother. srry but there isn't a better way.
2006-11-14 18:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by da man 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋