We've been dating. I asked her if she'd like to come stay with me while on a business trip in Las Vegas. Is it reasonable to ask that she pay for her airline ticket? I'm interested in knowing what is considered normal in dating today. We are both coming out of long term relationships, but my feeling is that she expects that when I ask, then I pay. I'd like to hear both men and women's opinion. Thanks!
2006-11-14 10:09:53 · 16 answers · asked by Hoselay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess that if you don't expect for her to take care of herself all the time, and that you can treat her once in a while is o.k. life has become very different and in a relationship is 50-50.
I think that a women should be more independent and make her own decisions. If she decides to see you and you mean that much to her it shouldn't matter if she pays or not. Just remember that when the favor needs to be returned and you re put in her shoes you do what you expect her to do right now.
CAPISH!!!!!
2006-11-14 10:19:34 · answer #1 · answered by latina lover 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally me and my bf go with the whoever asks pays...(We've been together 6yrs) But a lot of the times, even if I ask he pays. Something like an airline ticket though....hmm if you're asking her then I would assume you're offering to pay for it....But why not just split the costs? If she pays for the airline ticket,,,,you pay for the extra expenses over there. I'm assuming you're ticket was free b/c it's a business trip? So would you get a free trip and stay and she pay for her end?
2006-11-14 18:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's fair that you alternate paying for things you guys do together..usually the general rule of thumb is who suggests the activity usually pay for it.
The airline ticket, I can see why she would think that since you asked her over, you should pay but I don't think that 'd be fair. If she wants to see you as much as you do and if she can afford it, she should pay.
But hey, you might want to impress her and cough it up since you guys are still at the beginning stages of dating ( that might score you some points!)
Either way good luck!
2006-11-14 18:15:14 · answer #3 · answered by Dahlia O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a women; when a men and a women are in a relationship, i think that it should be a two way street...she should pay sometime or at least offer, even if u decide to turn her down. I suggest that you talk to her about it but gently because conversations about money are "tricky" so don't go too strong!
2006-11-14 18:24:01 · answer #4 · answered by desperate girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally, i think if you are inviting her than you should be willing to front the ticket.. sorry, but you can't invite her and say oh by the way.. you bite the cost.
you could say, if you have some extra time and could afford it would love ya to fly out to vegas.. and explain that you'll get the hotel or whatnot.
for example, i took someone to indy for the race..and i didn't expect him to pay for the stuff i invited him too.. i.e the race, the hotel or the gas.. i did expect him to pay for his own beer though, and he ended up picking up two dinners.. i also invited him two 3 concerts, and i paid for the tickets, gas and stuff like that. he paid for a dinner and that was nice..but now i'm kind of stuck wondering..mmmm, so am i ever going to get invited anywhere other than your house and am i always going to ahve to eat fast food when i'm there??
now.. onto like reuglar dates.. yeah, if she invites than she should pay..or every once in a while she should. it should kind of flip back and forth. that's my personal opinion though.
2006-11-14 18:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it should depend on the financial situation of both you and her.
it's not fair for one person to pay all the time just because they are a guy.
but for this trip, it's hardly fair to expect her to pay for a ticket when you'll be busy with business most of the time.
finish your business then take a vacation together when you can both devote 100% of your time to each other. that's what i would do!
2006-11-14 18:17:05 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You invite me on a trip I guess I would expect you to pay for the airline ticket ..unless we are geting seperate rooms.
2006-11-14 18:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by blueyes2001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well...if you can afford it, because you asked her to come, you need to pay. if you absolutely can't afford it, maybe you could sit down with her, and maybe say something liek - hey, i really really want you to come, and that's why i invited you to come with me, but after i asked you, i looked into my finacnes, and as much as i would LOVE to treat you to a trip to las vegas, i simply can't afford it.
like i said, because you invited her to come with you, you really should pay, but if you can't afford it, then that's the end of the story, so let her know that you knwo it's pretty wrong of you to have to not pay for it, and let her know you feel TERRIBLE about it. help with what you can on her ticket, too.
as far as expecting her to pay on a date. no, that's not okay. forget "normal dating today". be old fashion. that's what women want. they want chivalry and insanely good manners.
good day.
2006-11-14 18:19:36 · answer #8 · answered by allyson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in women's liberation, and because of that I think it's fine for her to pay for her ticket. It's reasonable these days.
2006-11-14 18:14:13 · answer #9 · answered by jazzmetalbassist 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that if you'd like her to come and stay with you then you should either offer to pay half or the entire total. It's not fair to push the entire total on her because you wan't to see her as well, right?
2006-11-14 18:13:57 · answer #10 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋