She has lived with this man for six year, then he broke up with her and then she got really depressed and started going out a lot, dating many men (not sleeping with all of them she swears) drinking in bars and all because of this love frustration she suffered.
Sometimes when I think about all these guys she could have dated, I get angry and kind of jealous at the same time even though this is her past and I should not judge it.
On the other hand, we love each other andI know for sure she is not a slut at all. We are pretty sure we have a future together. Do you think it is normal to feel the way I do by just thinking about that short period of her past?
Any help would be really appreciated.
2006-11-14 09:59:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As long as she is not cheating on you, then you shouldnt think anything of it. She has a past and so do you, so if you judge her then she can judge you because im sure you have had girlfriends in the past.
2006-11-14 10:03:27 · answer #1 · answered by fatpeople_atemy_family 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for some people, but it is very destructive to think this way. Even if she DID sleep with more guys she admits to being with - so what? If it makes THIS much difference to you, you're with the wrong woman; it will torment you for the rest of your time together, because no one can change the past. The fact that she HAD had the opportunities to choose anyone else, but chose you, should tell you that perhaps she made her choice with her eyes open. The problem with people who's had very little to no relationship experience is that they're still "trying things out", and often are not quite sure of what they want from a relationship. This can lead to mistakes, and lots of pain for everyone involved.
Me personally, I would much rather end up with someone who have sown their "wild oats"; wisdom that comes from experience is not a bad thing to have in a long-term relationship.
2006-11-14 10:08:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So...what?
Let me tell you something...Before I met my husband I had been engaged 3 times and I dated a lot..A LOT! Once I met my husband, no other man mattered to me because I met my true soul mate and I love him more than anything in this world. I would take a bullet for him. Sometimes in life you have to kiss a lot of toads till that toad turns into a prince.
Her past is her past and she should not be judged for things that she did when she was youngerr. You were young once and did you not make stupid mistakes? Should she judge you for the mistakes that you have made because you were younge and stupid?
2006-11-14 10:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal to feel that way. But if there is to be a "future" just know that it is in the past and let it stay there. Sounds like you are the only one keeping the past alive. If its to much of a problem get out of the relationship before it starts. Save you and her as much greif as possible.
2006-11-14 10:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by sirelyas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand that her heart was broken into pieces and she needed a way to get her mind off the jerk who left her hanging. Having a distraction is always a good tool to fix a broken heart. So don't worry about those men in her past just focus on the future, your future with her. GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2006-11-14 10:09:38 · answer #5 · answered by slboyd1983 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a girl with a past....
My ex is my ex for that reason, the past is the past. We do things when we are younger simply because we are young, or because we did not have the upbringing like most. Don't judge her because of her past, it is not fair. Judge her according to the person she is today. She was honest with you about her past simply because she wanted to share everything with you, because it is you she wants to spend a long term relationship with, with hopes more develops. My ex was not mature about it... he is younger than I am. Please trust me on this, if you love her please let it go. It is too painful for you both to keep letting it hang over your head.
Forgive and forget let God judge what she has done, you enjoy your feelings and the relationship.
2006-11-14 10:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy Shut Your Mouth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its so normal to feel that way. It will take some time and effort to get past that stuff though. You have to be sure shes the one for you and worth all of the pain that your mind has and will continue to put you through. Is it worth it?
2006-11-14 10:03:03 · answer #7 · answered by polystyrene_high 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My gf was the same way. She was a stripper and a drug addict. She used to get passed around by alot of guys. But she has given up that lifestyle now with me and I am thankful she has. The way I look at it is, They might have gotten sex from her but they never got what I am getting, HER HEART. Getting sex from a woman is easy but getting her heart is hard to do. Besides, that experience she had makes her a knock out in bed. You dont get that from no virgin.
2006-11-14 10:09:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because she 'swears' doesn't mean anything. You should add some to what she says if not all. Other than that, it's your decision who you want to date. Don't prolong the relationship or get more serious if you can't handle that.
2006-11-14 10:05:55 · answer #9 · answered by Nep 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way- she has shopped around enough to know by now what she really wants! And it looks like it's you! Look at it as a security feature! lol
2006-11-14 10:03:54 · answer #10 · answered by "B" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋