I told my boyfriend that I am not ready to have sex with him yet. and he suggested that we take a break, because he needs to think about whether or not I find him attractive. I cannot believe that he is so insecure.
We haven't been together for long enough to be intimate and he is bugg'n out on me. Should I be worried about him and stay with him (Because I really like him) or should I kick his insecure *** to the curb (becasue I can't stand a soft dude)? Help me out please!
2006-11-14 09:56:35 · 10 answers · asked by Sameris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some guys will pull every trick in the book just to get some sex. If he wants to break up over this, you're better off without him. If you find him attractive just say, "I find you attractive. I'm just not ready." I hope you'll stop being infatuated enough that you won't be blind to his faults, but it sounds like you can do that.
2006-11-14 10:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by robertspraguejr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys have to get their rocks off, Mother Nature wired us this way for the continuation of the species. It's really not your bf's fault or any personal flaw of his, it's just the way guys are. If you kick him to the curb, you'll more than likely find the next guy is the same way. You could try negotiating handjobs, that'll give him some relief, but he needs to understand and respect that you're not ready for sex. If he can't, he'll have to find another girl.
2006-11-14 10:14:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all...Good job on being strong enough to tell him you aren't ready!! Because if you aren't then do not do it no matter what he says! If he is saying he needs to take a break because you don't want to think about why he is dating you in the first place. Is he only after one thing?
2006-11-14 09:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't grab a set and be a real man, then he isn't worth it. Rushing into something that your not ready for isn't the answer. Tell him if he has to try to rush you then maybe hes not the right one to be with.
2006-11-14 10:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by Whos your mama? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that he is playing with you. He thinks if he pulls this you will feel bad and have sex with him. You don't need games like that. Find someone who respects your wishes.
2006-11-14 09:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by libra1079 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT LET HIM PRESSURE YOU.
This is a very passive-aggressive way of pressuring you -- it is INFURIATING, I know! He's a wimp and a loser -- kick him out!
I would call him out on it too -- tell him his lame attempts of trying to get you to feel guilty SUCK and are very low.
2006-11-14 09:59:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy is a totally a big loser...he just want you for that...trust me if you ever give it to him...his gone forever....so i think you did the right one for your self GOOD LUCK..
2006-11-14 10:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he doesnt respect you. dump him and find someone who actually cares about you.
2006-11-14 09:58:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a very nice guy.
2006-11-14 10:00:25 · answer #9 · answered by rachel_waves 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont get attached.
2006-11-14 09:59:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋