Alright what does this mean this guy has got me confused! Guys help please!?

Question

Alright so i like this guy who really isn't considered the cutest guy ever, but nevertheless he is popular. He's smart, witty, funny, and kind, but usually completely ignores me. Sometimes we will have conversations, but they're usually started by someone else because im too shy to start talking to him myself and never know what to say, and he never really talks to me first. I've been getting mixed signals; sometimes, I'll catch him staring at me, or when I look at him he always kind of stares back, but like, in some classes, we sit next to each other and he never says a thing to me, but rather talks to girls that are 'cooler' than me-sometimes these girls are even a bit slutty. I can't help but like him-though he can be a real jerk sometimes. I will give a best answer to the person who answers thes questions most effectively: 1. What on earth does this mean? 2. How should I start talking to him(I used to know him well but now not really.)(ice breakers??)

p.s. I'd really like some advice from ppl in high school relationships now(how did you start talking to ur bf/gf?) and also adults that are wiser. Any help is appreciated, though!

p.p.s. this guy is SMART...he's not the 'popular' type, but he's well liked and ive been having lots of problems getting a bf...ive never had one and im in 9th grade.

Answer 1

It seems like your shyness may be getting in the way. If he's popular, many popular guys won't bother trying to talk to shyer quieter people (which is pretty jerkish of them, but anyways...). It's like they'll just talk to the "easiest" people to talk to, who are the other popular kids since they're all in the same genre. The next time you see him or sit next to him in class, just smile and say hi, how are you, or something like that. Maybe ask him how his week/weekend has been going. Since you're in high school, movies are a cool subject to talk about. Another way to talk to him is if you're in a conversation started by someone else (like you said), but then you more or less take control of the conversation and make it more between you and him. I wasn't too popular in high school, I was kind of shy and didn't associate much with the popular kids, but I was nice to everyone and I learned to open up a little... which goes a long way. Just talk to him about whatever, just don't let your mouth run too much, because he might get overwhelmed and get turned off... and smile :) guys like a pretty smile to start and end a conversation.

good luck!

Answer 2

The boy doesn't know you are alive probably because you are acting like an unconfident high school girl. He ignores you because you don't have enough confidence to make yourself known. You have what we all call a crush...a pointless, silly little crush. Now, the fact that he doesn't even aknowledge you should give you a red flag that you are not something he is interested in...however sometimes boys are just dumb. Sometimes, they are shy and don't talk unles spoken to. That, my dear, is a boy that has no confidence and from experience...stay away from them. Boys like that are usually bores to be around and typically go where public opinion strikes (hello slutty girls or "cooler" girls).

Popularity doesn't mean anything. I know a lot of people who are popular and attractive and would rather slit their wrists than go talk to someone of the opposite sex or go speak in front of a large group. Popular just means you are involved in the most activities, give the best head, dress the best, have the best car...or something along those lines. It doesn't make you a better person, it doesn't make you a more attractive person to date.

Now, if you want to start something with this boy (and I don't know why), act confident. By acting confident, I mean drop some balls, a spine, and talk to him. Or...what you could do is just ask him to coffee or something. It really is not that big of a deal. As for ice breakers, BE YOURSELF! Talk about your hobbies, his hobbies. Don't put other girls down. Don't talk about your insecurities. Don't act like his momma (you will understand that when I am older too). If he can't make conversation, move the hel l on.

But, before you even date...drop this High School BS. When you get older, you will know what I mean. For now, it means you are "teehee boys like OMG drama." Take some yoga classes to center yourself. Surround yourself with positive thoughts and actions. Go do community service. Make yourself the best personal version of yourself and ACCEPT EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU. Take pride in yourself as it is. Don't focus on your flaws. You can aknowledge them and work on them, but they shouldn't be what makes you. Accept yourself as a sexy, bodaceous woman and you will go far and get any man you want. I can promise you that.

Answer 3

Well, im a high school senior and im havin the same problemo wit a shy gal.
1. Just coz he stares at you sometimes doesnt mean that he likes you, so dont assume it otherwise youll ruin your chance k.
2 Go and talk to his friend and like you said make someone else start the conversation and then speak up. LAter on when you get used to him, the words will come out of your mouth automaticall. ALSO dont forget to say "hi" to him when you see him passing down the hallway and try hanging out wit him and his friends. LAter on, when hes interested in you, move in FOR THE KILL. Good luck, WE R ALL ROOTIN FOR YA.

Answer 4

Ok girls. Let's remember that you can be quite intimidating to us guys. Talking to girls that are a bit slutty is probably easy for him because they will start the converstation. You may need to be a b it more agressive then you normally are. I don't mean slutty, just be willing to initiate the conversation. Try coming up with a situation where he can "help" you with something. It could be as silly as opening your locker, or help with some homework, or starting your car. He'll feel needed, and you will have a chance to talk to him, maybe even thank him by buying him a soda after school.

Answer 5

I am a junior in high school (guy), I don't think he likes you, I think he likes the attention that he gets from you liking him. I Think he is messing with you. Regardless, If he has been a jerk to you (another sign he doesn't like you) you should forget about him, I am a guy, take it from me, GIRLS ARE WONDERFUL, don't let anyone be mean to you or treat you badly, find someone else, who will treat you right, the way you deserve, with love, dignity, kindness and respect. If you wan't to talk to him, don't. If you have to, just be comfortable, comment on the weather or a test you just had, or a teacher, something generic. I hope this has been helpful. Good Luck,

Savage

Answer 6

Stop overthinking the situation. Stop trying to figure it out, you never will. Either make your move, as delicately as possible, or keep sitting on the bench. Don't feed his ego by telling himwhat you think of him, but let him know that you are interested in actually getting to know the funny, witty, ect guy for a possible relationship. Its really that simple. If you are too shy, then you need to get over it. Shy people never get what they want, and most of them grow up to be miserable people with a lot of emotional baggage. Good luck. Dont think about what you are going to say, just spiel. He will either be interested in you or not. But at lest you got it out of your system. Good luck!

Answer 7

1) he likes you, but since you are shy & probably
don't have the same friends he's afraid of what
others will think if he talks to you or has a relationship w/ you

2) talk about the same classes that you have, if you like
the class or if you do not like the class & why

if he's so worried about being popular then he's most likely not worth it, he'll only be thinking about himself.

Answer 8

1. It probably means that he is a little shy himself and is afraid of being rejected by you.
2. Several ideas for breaking the ice.
-talk about school stuff
-ask him out
-double date
-find out what his interests are and see if you have similar ones
-get "introduced" by mutual friend
Good Luck!

Answer 9

He might just be shy. I used to only talk to girls I wasnt attracted to because its easier. Thats when I was in high school. A good ice breaker would be..."will you buy me lunch today, I forgot mine?" say it in a joking manner and see what his reply is. Youll know from his response if he cares for you.

Answer 10

first of. stay in school focus in school, listen to your parents advices....second if you never heard about popular people in school ? here is what they turned out to be....... the answer is stupid......stupid and stupid, few of them made out ok because they learned their lessons from being popular......ask your self this question...being with some one popular so you'll be alone later in the future? or being with some one that love and care about you but that person is not popular? of course these are your life that you need to choose from. would you rather be with some one that love and accept you for who you are? or just some one that soooooo popular and just treating you as a toy? when they need you you are famous cause they are popular but when they being a jerk ? what will you be? good luck and please listen to your parents..focus on school and be strong.