Do you ever think that the one you are with has done enough bad things in the relationship that things probably shouldn't work out but you just stay together because you have kids, or don't feel like getting to know someone new, or your family is used to them etc.?
2006-11-14 09:05:30 · 6 answers · asked by Diamonds_4Ever 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was with the father of my children for five years. The last 4 was only because of the kids. I finally decided to leave and i couldn't have made a better decision. I am so much happier and so are the kids. You should never stay with someone because you feel you have to, or you don't want to be lonely. If that other person really doesn't make you happy then what's point?
2006-11-14 09:15:43 · answer #1 · answered by maggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did before but then snapped out of it. I think it's actually very common for people in relationships to do that b/c there is that safety net feeling and that comfort zone and also the fear of not finding anybody else. If you're in that situation and really that miserable perhaps you should try and get out of it...why be unhappy? But think about it too...are you just bored and need to spice things up? If you have kids that of course is another factor but sometimes it's better for the kids when the parents get divorced.
2006-11-14 17:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like I am in that situation right now..
I stick with him because we have a little girl and I dont know why , but I feel if we split up , he wont be around.. he'd go straight to drinking alot and "forget" he ever had her....even though he's never said that , that is my biggest fear......But then I ask myself, would it be better off with out him totally? I am not sure about that one,,, I have seen what happens to children with parents that get divorced at a vital age.. its pretty scary..
*sigh...
Brandywine
2006-11-14 17:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by WOWbrandywineWOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the "significant other" I'm w/ has done so many things bad! things that are unforgiveable!! anywho.. I feel I'm w/ the guy because I feel sorry for him.. and yet again..I stop to think about the nice things he does, and the good things he has done.. and makes me realize I really do love him..
2006-11-14 17:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by Become a better person 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did that for the last year of my former marriage. Then I wised up, decided I wasn't settling for anything less than I deserved/wanted, and filed for divorce.
2006-11-14 17:07:27 · answer #5 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried EVERYTHING I could think of to get out of this marriage, NOTHING works. I guess I'm free to do pretty much whatever I want. She could stay or not.
2006-11-14 17:08:24 · answer #6 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋