Is this guy dangerous or am I just being stupid?

Question

Firstly, I DID NOT meet him on the internet. He`s a guy in my school. He leaves gym pretty much everyday to go to the principal and when he shows up, he`s usually playing hard enough to hurt someone (but he`s always really good). He`s always kinda scared me. He gets in fights all of the time, he`s big and muscular and he`s always looking at girls. Well, I rescently caught him looking at me and was really freaked out. He`s always looking at me now and somehow ends up being around me a lot more. He invited me to a party at his house and his best friend, who lives near me, will know if I`m lying baout why I can`t go. I don`t want to offend him by saying know if I`m just being stupid. He has friends and he goofs off a lot, but he also ENJOYS getting into fights and picking on people and he has a really short temper.

Should I be afraid of him or is it all in my head? Should I go to the party? Please don`t just say "yes" or "no". Tell me why.

Answer 1

Well if you're feeling uncomfortable in his presence, then that's not being stupid, you'fe feeling a "bad vibe" from him. From what you described he sounds like bad news point blank. But it's kinda hard to see what kind of person he is if you haven't talked to him. If you're afraid of your life than don't go, but if you aren't, it's worth a try to see what he is really about. you can tell a lot from someone's conversation to see what they are really about. so don't pre judge him because their might be a resonable explanation as to why he's acting like that. and what guy doesn't look at girls? unless they're gay. But if you're stuck on the fence, don't go by yourself to the party.. take a few friends along so you won't feel so awkward if the guy freaks you out, then chat with him for a minute... but if you don't want to go, just tell him you can't go and you have your personal reasons and leave it at that. he ain't your daddy or your husband and you don't have to go into a big explanatory story to let him know. the worst thing that could happen is that the party sucks and that he sucks and you can leave the party early.

Answer 2

Listen to your "gut" and don't associate with him on the slightest level. He bullys, picks on, and fights people, all with a short temper as well?? This guy obviously sounds obsessed in feeling superior to others, which deep down on the dark-side means he has a inferiority complex. What does all this mean to you: oh yeah, he'll make you feel like you're different; looking only at you, trying to be around you more and more, etc. etc.
But in the end, this obvious impression of immature aggression that most people feel from him will no longer distinguish that you are any different as well. Point I'm making is that you'll end up getting hurt. Hostile men are very lost emotionally and you don't want to be around them when that emotion suddenly bursts.

Answer 3

This type of person you should avoid. By having a short temper and beating people up and picking on them constantly, means that they don't put a value on anyone including themselves. They act out in a way to intimidate others to make themselves feel better. Unfortunatly when these types of people get alcohol in them this affect gets worse often causing blackouts, arrests, and stupid behavior.

I would just say that your parents don't allow you to go to parties where there are going to be alot of guys and drinking, and if he gets mad then you'll know why, because he had other intentions other than just hanging out with you.

Be safe girl!!

Answer 4

i would say yes and then i would say no. I have been in alot of physical abusive relationships myself. First off ask your self how well you know this person? Second take the time to get to know him. Cause once you do this you may see that this person really isn't as bad as you think. But after you get to know him then always follow your gut instinct. If you think at that time your not safe , well then chances are your not. But at least get to know this person. Cause he may turn out to be the nicest guy you will ever know. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

Big and muscular, short temper, fights...sounds like steroids.
At any rate, he's bad news. Stay away from anyone with a bad temper. The gym thing...Here's a look at the future...He will choose the gym before a romantic evening at home.

Answer 6

The bottom line is you think hes dangerous and youre afraid of him. Go with your gut and dont go. It was already said, but he sounds like a proud guy, he wont drag out the issue. Just put him down in a nice way, since he has a short temper :s

Answer 7

If you're scared of him, then you are scared of him and that is just how it is. As for the party, just say "no thanks, parties aren't really my thing" and make plans to hang out with friends that night.

Chances are, he'll get the message that you aren't interested and will leave you alone--he sounds like he is a pretty proud guy, he won't want to drag out the issue and end up looking stupid.

Answer 8

to no longer understand the version between a Soldier and a Marine, makes you seem stupid. you have a extra helpful threat of having shot in Chicago then you definately do in Iraq. a lot of people die in vehicle injuries, surprising that purely 25 of them have been Marines.

Answer 9

He does sound a little dangerous...but, then again, he could just be your typical guy, trying to look macho in front of all the girls...

Answer 10

Your gut is already telling you to "steer clear" and you should follow it. Please don't let your fear of him cause you to do something you know you should not. As for what exactly to do about it, I do not really know, Is there a school councilor you can talk discreetly with, mabe they could help. But you definitely need to talk to some-one in authority position!