I have a daughter that is sixteen years old and out of controll. How do I settle her down for her babies sake? I am a very concerned mother and grandmother to be. Can anyone help me.
2006-11-14 08:53:36 · 16 answers · asked by molly 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Unfortunately you can't make her settle down or do anything else. (too bad for the baby and her) You could try giving her information on how to have a healthy baby, without yelling or preaching. (even if it is hard) Ask someone she may be closer to (if there is anyone) to talk to her about her behavior. (so that she can't yell at you about it-- she may listen when it comes from someone else) There are also teen pregnancy centres that may be able to help her with her concerns, problems, or behaviour. If she could see the effects of wild behaviour on newborns she may want to keep her own safe. I guess there are things you can try but really it has to come from her. If she won't settle down and continues after the baby is born then you may want to think about taking away custody. (she should have to be pretty wild and out of control for that.)
I wish you the best.
Good Luck.
2006-11-14 09:02:10 · answer #1 · answered by artimis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my baby when i was 16, and i was on my own almost, because my mother just had surgery. I think that your daughter became pregnant, because she doesnt has enough love and attention from you, you have a chance to be mum, to show that you really care about her and her future. First, put half of the hores about house on your daughter, coocking and washing, she should feel that she is responsible. I know what its feel that you want to go to the disco all the time, but i had work from 17 years, and study in university too. My daughter now is 12 and she is so proud of me, like i am about her.
2006-11-14 20:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by Sasha C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really do much if she won't listen to you. Try to get her involved in preparing for the baby. Let her know that the baby will need many things to care for him/or her and that she needs to start preparing for that. Take her to a baby store, take Lamaze classes with her (which are offered at the hospital). If she really is out of control and doesn't stop after the child is born it would be best for you to care for the baby, even adopt it until she proves she can be a real mother. I hope things get better for you and good luck...
2006-11-14 09:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by Queen Momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe counseling will help. Your daughter is so young you must truly be so supportive, I feel for you it must really be hard to cope with. I know when I was a 16 year old girl I thought of course I knew everything also. I never got pregnant mind you but I was a rebellious teenager and mom stuck by me and now I think I turned out OK. Just a little hope for you. be The best support you can be it isn't going to be easy but she will grow up soon and realize how important you are to her. I wish you and your family the best of luck.
2006-11-14 09:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite frankly, if she won't calm down for her baby's sake, then it may be time to lock the door and throw away the key. Take away her car, if she has one. Make her tell you where she is going at all times. If she is doing something illegal (drinking, smoking), then threaten to call the police on her. If she doesn't stop, actually DO call the police. Her baby is better off with her in jail than with her smoking or drinking.
2006-11-14 09:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by Esma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who's the adult in that house and what's a 16 year old doing getting pregnant? Did you not know where she was? Hey, it all comes from how they're raised so if you've net set rules before, obvioulsy a problem, it's a little late to start now. Good luck raising your grandkids.
2006-11-14 09:01:54 · answer #6 · answered by Pache 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean, you are a mother / grandmother to be! You are a mother...the way to make her settle down it to tell her to lie in the bed that she made, and make HER raise the child...with some help from Grandma...but it's her child!~
2006-11-14 09:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to sound mean but, YOU'RE THE MOTHER! Take control. I'm so tired of these parents letting their children walk all over them. And people wonder why kids are they way they are nowadays.
2006-11-14 08:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by jakesmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your the mom you should have complete control over her but i sounds like she has already rebelled. maybe once the baby is born she will she that she has to settle down cause she has another life to care for.
2006-11-14 09:04:40 · answer #9 · answered by Sam 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all u sit her *** down and tell her the truth. tell her she needs to be more concerned about the baby than herself!! Tell her since she thought she was old enough to make a child then her *** is old enough to take care of one.
2006-11-14 08:58:28 · answer #10 · answered by Kandy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋