me and my boyfriend has known each other for 4yrs and we been dateing for 2 of those yrs. he spent 2yrs tryin to get me because he was a flirt who try to talk to everyone and i wasn't sure i wanted him dont get me wrong he is really sweet. he was living with his grandma wich he hated when i 1st moved out my mom house which happen to be down the street from the place he was stayin. I moved in with friends that were his friends to by the time a know it he moved in two and it just seem to happen so quick. I know he loves me but now are friends say he is just useing me for a place to stay and he doesn't talk bout feelings much his mom died when he was young so he mystious to me anyway he says he loves me we have a baby now and he helps alot. should i leave it alone maybe he was in a rush to move out but he does love me hell he waited 2yrs for me what should i do
2006-11-14 08:46:38 · 9 answers · asked by DeDe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think that you may be parranoid about commitment. it sounds to me that he had a really hard childhood so maybe he is afraid of compassion. if he spent 2 years trying to get you without knowing that in the future you will help him have a place to live, he obviously likes you. chill and see where this road leads you, if you feel trapped you should just tell him you want to take a break and see if things get better. if not, end the relationship forever.
2006-11-14 08:50:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean I don't understand what is the issue that you want to break up with him for anyways. The main thing is you guys taking care of your baby. Regardless what disagreement you guys have, just make sure that your baby is straight. Because I know men at times will slack off when they're not with the baby's mother anymore. You just need to think about if you're wasting a lot of energy and time, and if you're getting used to the point where you can't take it, then branch off from his ***. You can love someone without liking them.. Love is only half of the battle... respect, trust, honor, and understanding is the majority of it, because without all of those components, your love will not survive... So just take some time out to decide where you wanna be, what you wanna do, and what will be good for you the baby's father, and you.
2006-11-14 08:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. PHILlis (in training) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men traditionally don't discuss their feelings. He comes home and helps out with the kid and yet you still want more. Maybe you don't want him anymore. If that is the case you have to ask yourself why? When you come up with an answer why you may not want him anymore you will probably feel guilty and you should. You have a man who spends time with you and your child! Your friends don't like him? Tough, they haven't got to be with him. If he is playing you, which seems unlikely based on your statement, then you are looking for excuses to get out because your bored. If you do decide to get out, the first thing you are going to want is him sending you money with your joint child being the excuse to pay you, but in reality, you just want out and you want him to pay for it. Your a Mom, grow up!
2006-11-14 08:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not using you if he waited 2 yrs for you.
Corey
2006-11-14 08:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by punkeey_monkeey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to flush the relationship down the toilet.
2006-11-14 08:48:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like him go out with him if you don't like him tell him the truth
2006-11-14 08:49:15 · answer #6 · answered by BABY GIRL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know what ur talkin about
2006-11-14 08:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by Michele 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust him
2006-11-14 08:49:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT IS UP TO YOU.
2006-11-14 08:51:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋