I just found out i am pregnant with my husband.He has a daughter that is feeling like she dosent belong to the family or that the unborn baby is more part of the family than her...Help anyone?
2006-11-14 08:41:05 · 9 answers · asked by livelaughlove201 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she is 13 and very mature for her age
2006-11-14 08:45:13 · update #1
Tough one, but with a little work, it can be done.
What you can do is start involving her in making the pre-baby decisions. Take her shopping with you for baby stuff and let her pick the ones she likes. Ask her to help you decorate the baby's room. Take her to your doctor's appointments with you and let her see the baby on the sonogram. Get her a shirt that says "big sister in training" or something like that. Do whatever you can to help her feel connected.
2006-11-14 08:45:00 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well make sure to include her in big decisions and stuff. Like when you first go to hear the baby's heart beat. or what color should the nursery be, maybe get her input on some names she would like to have for her new little sibling. I don't know how old she is or what religion you are, but you could have her as a god sister. I think if she sees that you are trying to include her in any way possible, she might appreciate that. She might not say yes to any thing but at leat you tried
2006-11-14 08:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by sexzbich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well any "blended " family issues are hard i have 2 step daughter and have been the "step monster" for 16 years I talk to one of them but have nothing to do with the other and like it that way i know that sounds harsh but its easier to deal with that way. Try to make her a part of the whole experience take her to ultra sounds, dr appointments baby shopping and hopefully if she is mature she will have no problem with the new baby and resent it good kuck
2006-11-14 11:20:58 · answer #3 · answered by misshart2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is feeling like she doesn't belong to the family, you have to start treating her like a daughter. that means you are always there for her, have unconditional love for her and show her that you care. she must of had doubts before your pregancy of this feeling and now that you are having a baby with her father, she is really getting scared. just keep reinforcing your love for her and tell her that she's going to have a baby brother or sister and this is going to make the family closer and let her make choices with you of what she feels the baby needs and how she would like to decorate the baby's room - you could even make her pick out a piece of furniture, like a rocker, that would be hers, that she could use whenever she's in the baby's room. if you can, maybe, you could also do her room over before the baby comes, letting her pick out the colors and bedspread of her choice for her do-over room. make her feel important, needed and loved. good luck and congratulations on the upcoming baby.
2006-11-14 09:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the problem has nothing to do with genetics & more like she feels emotionally distant & not part of your new family.
I would really make a true effort to include her in all that you do, call her to see how her day went, invite her over all of the time, be truly interested in her feelings & her interests...
It is difficult for kids to adjust, but with love, support, guidance ect, it will alllll work!
2006-11-14 08:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should she feel genetically detatched? Spend lots of time with her, and confide in her on family matters from your family. I myself have a half-sister I didn't know existed until this year, and when I last saw her nine years ago, I didn't know she was my sister. But now, she's my best friend.
2006-11-14 08:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by kytigirl200 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step-daughter is just looking for the pity party to get attention. Ignore it and enjoy your upcoming baby.
2006-11-14 09:09:11 · answer #7 · answered by Pache 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always include her on things...for example, have her help you prepare for the baby. And give constant reassurance that she is special to you and your husband.
2006-11-14 08:43:19 · answer #8 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably feels that the family is paying attentino to you more becuase you're gonna have a new baby/.
2006-11-14 09:16:52 · answer #9 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋