i talk to my bf all the time, it took me about a month for him to start talking about $ex, and he wont even say the word. how do i convince him not to be afraid and that it is not going to kill him
2006-11-14 08:38:38 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he said we will do it when i see him in the summer but he wont talk about it, is he really ready?
2006-11-14 08:45:28 · update #1
Normally it's the other way around. Don't pressure him, mabye he just isnt ready. Or, I don't know how old you are or what experience he had, maybe he's gotten a girl pregant or had an std. It'll happen when you are BOTH ready. You always hear its wrong to pressure a girl into sex, it's equally wrong to pressure a guy. or maybe hes gay?
2006-11-14 08:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by strtat2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is afraid and uncomfortable talking about it, maybe he is not ready for that yet. Keep an open mind with him and be supportive and talk to him, but don't try and pressure him into anything. It won't be worth it in the end.
2006-11-14 08:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by cucutechick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, you're having trouble getting a guy INTO bed?
Am I reading this properly?
I really wish I could help you on this one, but, unless there's some HORRIBLY embarassing reason he doesn't want to be naked with you, like he lost his wee wee in a weed whacker mishap, I don't know ANY guy that needs much, if any, convincing to have sex.
Seriously, Good Luck with this one.
2006-11-14 08:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by gzam415 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh boy... this question is very close to me because i do the same thing... the word sex itself doesn't bother me much, i'll say it with little hesitation...
but other things i wont say... my girlfriend has asked me to talk more dirty to her, and i have a REAL hard time with it... but i do try, and it's working slowly...
i will say, this is probably going to be rather hard for him, and take a long time (if he's anything like me anyway)... but if he really cares about you, he'll try.
2006-11-14 08:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex talk on the phone, I am not into it either!
Now if he wont perform in person you have a problem!
Clarify what you are asking!
2006-11-14 08:41:05 · answer #5 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just be upfront and honest with him, he might have some trauma in has past as far as being molested or something else might have happened so be patient with him until you know whats up with him.
2006-11-14 08:41:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him about it. Come up with reasons why he shouldn't be afraid.
2006-11-14 08:40:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till your 18 cause he's obviously not ready to be a father yet
2006-11-14 08:40:35 · answer #8 · answered by cwb63ss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do know that you can say the word yourself if you wanted too? if he doesn't say something it can only mean he doesn't wanna do it...
ps: the nothing wrong in being the initiator of things, and that's one way of finding out if he's a virgin or gay..
2006-11-14 08:43:56 · answer #9 · answered by angelic_234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should respect the fact that he dont want to talk about
2006-11-14 08:41:03 · answer #10 · answered by StabbyJo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋