She gets all of the attion even though me and my sister are there two weeks a months and my dad gives it to her. Hello is there something wrong with us or something,we barly ever get to see him.What should I do .Someone help me!
2006-11-14 08:30:30 · 5 answers · asked by littlesunnycarebear 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is not that he doesn't want to be with you and your sis.... Sometimes adults act very stupidly and selfishly. I am so sorry that you have to experience this. I went through this myself when I was younger. Try talking to your dad and tell him that you want more alone time with just him and your sis. He probably won't do it because the step mom might get offended and mad at him. But you can always try. Please remember that it has nothing to do with you.. He loves you but just acts dumb sometimes because he is afraid of her. Good luck sweetie!
2006-11-14 08:43:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweety, unfortunatly, the stepmom's are so insecure, and if dads know this, they put all their attention on the stepmom instead of the children.
Mom's do the same at times with stepdads.
BUT, if I were you, I'd show her your question to this sight!!
Don't be affraid to tell her how it makes you and your sister feel. Remind her she's the one who is always there. Tell her your not asking for her to totally not have anything with your dad on your 2 week stays, BUT that you and sister do need some quality alone time with him when you do get to be there because you are his daughters and you feel you still need the bonding time you can get with him.
IT's not your fault your folks got a divorce, and it's not step mom's place to hog all the love and attention. Remind her your young girls, and YOU have that need from your dad.
IF you can tell her these things, and she's actually a good stepmom, she'll more than anything understand, and I think she will try to give you the alone times you 2 girls need with dad. ALSO when all of you are together, it would be nice for her to bond with you too and not hog all of dads attention.
Good Luck!
2006-11-14 08:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My niece went through the same thing. This woman knew your Dad had kids when she married him. If she can't be adult enough to allow your Dad to give you girls the attention you deserve and your Dad is going along with her, there's not much you can do. He won't piss her off for his own children and that's sad and pathetic. I'm sorry for your situation.
2006-11-14 08:41:32 · answer #3 · answered by Debra D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should consider discussing this with your father. It's not fair. It's one thing to love the one your with, but you also have to consider your children. You really should sit down and talk with him in private. or suggest a family trip with only you, your sister and your father.
2006-11-14 08:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by Nao 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to DAD outside of the house and alone.
He needs to know that he is "slighting" you guys.
2006-11-14 08:32:55 · answer #5 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋