I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months and things have going excellent, until last weekend. I found out he had lied to me. Well, he did something he knew I wouldn't like, and hid it from me. When I confronted him on it he admitted to it and said it was the only time. I think its the truth, but we have a long distance relationship and only see each other weekends. So he could be doing just about anthing without me knowing it. I don't want to not trust him forever but I don't want to be the idiot that trusts a liar. How do I know if I can trust him? How long should he be good until I completely trust him again?
2006-11-14 08:27:49 · 11 answers · asked by arzachel81 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is a hard situation. I guess it really depends on what he did and how bad it hurt you and made you lose trust in him. If he loves you and cares for you then he will have to work to get your trust back. There really is no time limit on these things, the trust will slowly come back if he proves himself to be trustworthy. It might help to talk to him about it.
2006-11-14 08:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by *mxgirl115* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First ask…have you created a situation where he fears telling you the truth? Are you putting rules that are too strict on him. Do you have common ground rules you both agree on?
You might actually be creating a situation where he has too many rules and disagrees with you. He may have done something he didn't think was wrong.
With that said, if it was something fairly major or a ground rule you both agreed on you might be concerned. If you don't have too many rules and you have an open relationship where he is free to talk with getting "in trouble" then you might question your relationship.
Also, has he given you other reasons not to trust? Are you lacking in trust because you yourself can not be trusted? Those that don’t trust themselves can often be the first to distrust others. Are you distrusting because you have been burned in the past or has he not earned your trust?
By 6 months you should have some pretty sold trust in place.
2006-11-14 08:41:57 · answer #2 · answered by Brad N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think long distant relationships are a bad Idea? You said it in your Q. He could do anything he wanted. And so could YOU. But, I bet he trusts you. So that's up to you. OR, you could be normal and date someone within driving distance.
A second part of this answer is this, I am not surprised that you didn't reveal what it was he did you didn't like. I bet it's something small and petty, and if you did reveal it, it would probably give us an idea of your controlling nature. Remember, you two are not married, so your control over him is limited.
2006-11-14 08:37:21 · answer #3 · answered by TheOneVersion3.0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't just start trusting him whenever you feel like it, you have to gain your trust back for him. It could take a month and it could take a year, no one knows but you when the time is right.
2006-11-14 08:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by sundragonjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i was in a LDR and well it was 3 months. you got to talk to his friends to see whats up. if hes dating other girls. i went through the same thing as you i always thought is she making out with this guy, cuz she always talked about him but all you got to do is see how long he goes without talking to you. if he tried to avoid you there is something that is up. trust me i promise. remember he made the mistake he has to make up for it. and if he doesnt make an effort hes a player. but otherwise have a good day and god bless
2006-11-14 08:31:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 12:30:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the problem with lies. Once you find out you've been lied to, you'll never really be able to trust the person again. Why do you want to be with someone who lies?
2006-11-14 08:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by Elaine J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on you dear....you'll know in your heart when the right time comes to trust him again
"b careful though and good luck"
2006-11-14 08:36:25 · answer #8 · answered by angelic_234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either trust him or you don't. There is no doubting your self and him. You'll drive your self crazy with doubt.
2006-11-14 08:31:00 · answer #9 · answered by Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion long distace relationships aren't very good.
2006-11-14 08:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by punkeey_monkeey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋