hey guys i have a 20 month old daughter and she's pretty well mannered the trouble is when i take har to my friends place their kids are kind of nasty they'll pull her hair or slap her or bite her earlier i used to think she must be doing something to those kids to provoke them so i started keeping a check on her and trust me i felt really sorry for her because she usually would not even touch their toiys leave apart hitting or boting someone, whenever she sees those kids hitting their parents or screaming she is kind of surprised because she has never seen these things happening in her place, i tried telling my friends about it but they just laugh and say FORGET IT...i hate those kidss bullying my daughter i also don't understand what should i be telling her to hit them back to bite them etc etc(which i actually don't want to do). poor thing never even cries and complains she'll just sit quietly and sob today one of them really tortured her and bit her so hard that it started bleeding
2006-11-14 08:27:23 · 11 answers · asked by t_k 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Your job is to protect your daughter. You can either get the other kids parents to discipline them (which it sounds like you've already tried) or you can find other kids to play with. My daughter is like that, too, and our friends kids that are disciplined are pretty good to her but friends who are not disciplined are quite mean to her at times. I try to limit her exposure to kids who treat her badly repeatedly, especially if the kids aren't disciplined for it. Fortunately my daughter has never started being abusive to her friends or anything. We always talk about what happened. Even before she could talk I would tell her what happened and how it wasn't kind for people to treat her that way and we should never do that to our friends so she would know.
2006-11-14 10:36:37 · answer #1 · answered by AerynneC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find some new friends to hang out with. Don't "forget it" with the problem, forget them! Either that, or just don't take your daughter with you whenever you go to see them. It's an issue of safety - if other people can't control their kids, there is no sense in putting your daughter in dangers' way. Plus, eventually, she will start to see the way those other kids act as "acceptable", and she will start acting that way, too. Better to nip this problem in the bud before it gets out of hand.
2006-11-14 17:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by jello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your friends that you cannot come over anymore and to please not bring their children to your home. You are obviously teaching your daughter the right way to behave and I would just be honest with your friends and tell them that your daughter is more important to you than friends. I went through the same thing and I stood there, right in front of the other little girl's mom and said to the little girl, Cindy can't come and play with you anymore because you are mean to her and I don't want her to be mean to other kids. I'm sorry. I told her Mom I was sorry and never went back over and she never called me again. I am okay with it. And you will be too.
2006-11-14 16:48:14 · answer #3 · answered by sherijgriggs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop going over there, especially with your daughter, she is an innocent child, she doesn't deserve that and YOU should be protecting her from it not putting her in the place where it will happen. Your daughter is way more important than your "friends", act like it!
2006-11-14 16:35:14 · answer #4 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My advice-stop going over there and letting her play with them.They are obviously very mean kids and the mom doesn't care how they act-so quit being friends.If they are making your daughter bleed then I would never go there again.Your daughter is way more important then any friendship will be.
2006-11-14 16:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by mama of 2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
absolutely no biting,very dangerous, if these parents aren't parenting do not take your child there.if they want your company they can come to your home and follow your rules.i would not allow this anymore. if the shoe was on the other foot honey they would not be saying for get it.take her to the dr. for that bite. infections are very serious, she could get staff infection the poor little girl . im angry at these parents and i don't know them.i would not trust them w/ your little girls care ever.
2006-11-14 16:42:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
keep her away from them and stop going to your friends place if your Friend can not control her kids then you dint need to have your daughter around that at such a Young age because she will pick up on it and it will become a regular habit, she is very impressionable at that age.
2006-11-14 16:31:51 · answer #7 · answered by KEL971 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't bring her over there anymore. If you have to, have your daughter sit by you and play. If you witness her getting hurt, you have the right to tell that child to stop, after all, they are hurting your child.
2006-11-14 16:30:29 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica_Bessica 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what about your child's safety and happiness don't you get? Don't go back - enough is enough!!! There are plenty of friends and kids that ARE nice in your area. I wouldn't go back if I were you!
2006-11-14 16:31:04 · answer #9 · answered by Amy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't expose her to those kids! Why would you do that? She is just going to end up agressive if she is repeatedly exposed to it. And your friends should be controlling their kids.
2006-11-14 16:35:59 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Large Richard 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋