she wont talk to me but i get a feeling that the more she sees me the more i hurt her
2006-11-14 08:26:09 · 12 answers · asked by Josh Q 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, depending on what you did to lose her trust, you will have to be extremely patient. I am not sure if you are in love with this girl or not but if you really really want to earn her trust, it will be just that...earning it. I have gone through the same thing with my boyfriend and that was 6 years ago and Im still having a very hard time trusting him. I suspect everything most things to be lies since thats what he constantly did but the sooner that you admit to whatever it was you did and you are seriously sorry, it shouldnt take that long to get back on track and you two will be closer. Just keep in mind that she will most likely get mad at you for no reason (or so you will think) at times that she will be thinking about things in the past so there may be fighting if you dont learn to recognize the signs. My boyfriends problem is that hes had a very hard time admiting to when hes wrong and a lot of the time he will just tell me that I shouldnt think a certain way. But anyway, if you want to regain her trust you first have to step up and own the fault of whatever you did wrong, and dont do it again! The more you repeat it while appologizing the more she will not trust you because you didnt mean the appology if you keep doing it. It is a lot of work but definitely worth it if shes worth it to you.
2006-11-14 08:34:50 · answer #1 · answered by Onecolegirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How you fix the problem depends on how you lost her trust to start with. The typical Dr. Phil answer is that you are supposed to become an open book. He would say that you are supposed to let her in on every aspect of your life and not hide anything from her. I get the feeling from watching him that if she asks how many times you pottied you are supposed to answer with exactly how many times and what type of output you had. Then you are to continue in this manner until she can once again feel good about being with you.
2006-11-14 16:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just give her some time to cool off! At the moment, she just can't stand the sight of you, let alone talk to you, right? Gaining her trust back is the first thing you should do and if she really loves you, she will forgive you, i'm sure.
2006-11-14 16:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by PhiloPhobic 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How did you lose her trust? It really depands on what was done in order to have her regain that trust again. But I can tell you this when a woman loses trust in a man it takes a while and a lot of work to get it back.
2006-11-14 16:29:59 · answer #4 · answered by liz7768 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just let her know that you have changed and is willing to prove it by deeds not just words, I mean simple sweet things like leaving her notes with nice words, be the first one to offer help if things need to be done at home. Be persistent but not too annoying. Sometimes they just want you to prove it to them that you are really worth it. Patience is the best tool you have to have now, sometimes it takes time. Good luck
2006-11-14 16:36:50 · answer #5 · answered by macky boy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well betrayal is always a deal breaker.
Since she is not talking, then your just waiting. Only she knows what she will tolorate from you.
If she takes you back than that is accepting your bad behavior.
SO my advice is move on. If she is wise she won't.
You will learn from your mistake and the girl won't be your ex- so soon.
2006-11-14 16:31:10 · answer #6 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am the girl in this type of relationship, and honestly i wish my guy would just say i am sorry, accept that i dont trust him and without trust there is nothing else. i think you should talk to her, and if she seems like she dont care, or she is hurting, you got to ask her why. if she seems distant, then you should end it, but offer to be there for her. good luck
2006-11-14 16:29:47 · answer #7 · answered by harasgirl2001 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give her some time, if she loves you she'll come around...one thing though: trust is like a tree, it takes many years to grow tall and strong, once you break it, it will take the same amount of years to grow back..
"all the best though"
2006-11-14 16:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by angelic_234 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is very hard to trust someone who has mislead you. Give her time but be aware that she may not want you back.
2006-11-14 16:28:55 · answer #9 · answered by wingedgirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should send her the best flowers that she likes and write " I'm sorry...Please forgive 'cause it hurt me seeeing you like that". I hope it works.
2006-11-14 16:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by chocolate~bunny 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋