I've tried everything...how do I make my girlfriend have an orgasm?

Answer 1

First you need to get a girlfriend

Answer 2

i was just telling some guy how to get better at chess, someone else said, "it's not your talent or pure genius. It's about hard work and how much you learn." You wouldn';t feel insecure because you had to learn hoe to play chess better, or feel bad because someone had to show you how to tie a sailors knot. This is the problem with you americans, you talk about how special you are, individual flowers, special snowflakes. It's a load of crap. You aren't special, there's a million people out there who are stronger and smarter than you. It's nothing to feel bad about, just a fact. So don't feel bad about learning. my 1st time sucked, i didn't even climax. I later was with a very experienced girl who taught me a lot. I think it's rare for a woman to orgasm at all, and like you said many don't even know what an orgasm is, they thought they had one but they will know otherwise when they really do have one. I'm best with my hands, that's the only way i've ever made anyone squirt, i guess they can *** without squirting but there is a sense of pride with making a girl squirt across the room. I've told people about this and they've never done that. Women and men are very psychological, romance, senuality are very important. For example if you have sex with the intent of making a baby it's so much more close and intimate. There's that love (which by the way the squirter was a one night stand i'd just met). Sometimes aggression or other emotions can be fun in bed too, but that's specific to the person and time. For normal sex- girls seem to like the hard and fast, but some like the slow and sweet only (just not comfortable maybe) When going in try to angle upwards a little looking for the g-spot. have fun with it, play with it, mix it up. switch positions every few minutes. Be close smile whisper in her ear, Mental sex depends on the person i think but you can whisper about your future together and how much you like them stuff like that, ask her what she likes, what she wants, and give it too her. I'm sure your book tells you more so just try not to feel bad about it, you're both virgins so unless you learn you're just making stuff up.

Answer 3

Have you tried reverse cowgirl? She's on top facing your feet. She can sit up straight, or lie forward. try instead of having her knees bent at your sides, have her put her feet into your armpits and lie forward. sounds weird, feels great. PS, the wetter the better, expecially your boys and her clit, cuz they will come into contact and yea, good times.

missionary is not our favorite, but ok. instead of lying with her head at the top of the bed...have her put her head at the bottom corner and lie diagonal like her feet at the cener of the bed. Have her reach up over her head and bend at the elbows. and instruct her to grab ahold of a part of the bed she can hold on to comfortably, and kinda pull herself into the matress (not to the corner of the bed, down into the matress) I don't know why, but the whole stretching out my body thing really works.

Also, if you use lube, what brand? KY tends to have an oily, unnatural feel, try using Durex, Play More...that stuff is awesome, even if there are no problems in the water works department, you'll both agree that more of a good thing is a VERY good thing!

You don't have to be freakish, and you don't even have to buy anything when you go...but if you've never been to an "adult" store (from here on known as the "toy store") The two of you should go together, maybe they'll have a toy that you can use WITH her...or a video made specifically for her...maybe even explain what to do exactly that might work.

OMG! Doesn't have to be spanking or anything...and I know that whole BDSM thing is not for everyone, but blindfolds inhance every touch! Take away one sense, and the others grow stronger. It's different from having the lights out, because your eyes adjust and you can see your partner. with a blindfold, you don't know what to expect next. Put it on her prior to foreplay, and do various (like caress her, just lightly letting your fingertips run up and down her body *trust me* it's freeaaknin awesome, and obviously the more apparent things) things to her before "sex" that'll heighten her responses and every slight touch will make her more excited.
This can be used both ways in foreplay, but she has to go first, though, because if it's too intense for you...you're done and she might get a "thanks hon, that was fun!" Or you could go limp if you go first, while she has her turn.

Another thing to do is have her lie and not touch you while you tease and please her (also try with the blindfold). Let her know that when she's ready for you or has had enough, all she has to do is reach out and touch you, shoulder, butt, head, whatever...but if she's on a pleasure wave while giving her oral, and she grabs your head, give her a few seconds to ride it out (just like when it's you getting that attention), it's natural...she likes it and wants to keep you there for just a little while longer. some women do this, some don't. (now unlike the blindfold thing, it's harder to take turns in one session...this is your way of breaking away from the ordinary and innitiating an intense, pleasure packed session for her. That'll probably fix that problem ya'll have.

good luck and have fun! I hope this helps!

Answer 4

Some girls will not orgasm vaginally ever, some take a very long time of manual or oral. Try getting a vibrator to help. Make sure she can get herself to do it - then ask for pointers. I know its hard on your ego - but us "hard to get over the edge" girls appreciate the trying all that much more

Answer 5

Tell her to forget about it for a night.

Take her out somewhere romantic, spoil her rotten and give her a nice gift. Tell her how attractive she is. Women need to get in the mood, men were born that way.

Use touch and take it sloooowwwwww

Answer 6

Let her be on top and play with her. Then just enjoy the ride. Being on top works for most women they are in more control. Some oral foreplay works also. Maybe try some toys.

Answer 7

Take it slow give her plenty of time and foreplay before you start it takes girls way longer than guys. It is wonderful that you worry about plzing her many guys wouldn't care long as they got off.

Answer 8

If she knows her body she will let you know. Do you two have foreplay? Do you "go down" on her? Different positions work, every women is different but her on top is a sure a shot....

Answer 9

Watch her body and face, ask her what she likes. Try a bunch of different things and see what she likes. Don't try so hard, pay attention to her, not you.

Answer 10

I agree.. the best way to find out what she likes is by asking her! If you are ready for sex then you should be able to talk openly about sex with your partner!