my boyfriend and i had been dating sort of long distance and got in a fight like about 3 weeks ago and since then he hasnt been taking my calls. i think i hurt him i was saying i didnt think it was working and that i had removed my self to the point of being just friends..because of how hed been acting i donno he would call me maybe 2 nights a week after he was with his friends and totaly neglected me bu ti think i hurt him so much and ruined his trust and now he wont talk to me...take any of my calls and i wrecked it pretty much. tell me what i shoudl do?? shoudl i blame myself??
2006-11-14 08:07:14 · 5 answers · asked by krista22here 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i did get ahold of him the other morning and he said that he had moved up north. and that he didnt see us being more then friends anytime in the near future, and that he coudlnt trust me. i cried and begged told him i loved him only to be rejected....he did say wed hang out when he came down tho...i guess maybe will he come back and forgive me after awhile??
2006-11-14 08:11:17 · update #1
i tried tellin him why i said those things, cuz i felt like he didnt have time for me.and he still is just mad adn sayin he doesnt wnat me or cant trust me right now...do u think he will in time?
2006-11-14 09:13:26 · update #2
Try leaving him alone for a while so he doesn't think your a nag then you should try calling him again and apologize and tell him why u said what you said. Just let him cool off and get his thoughts straight. And no you should not blame your self you said what you said probably in the heat of the moment(try telling him that) and you were both argueing so its kinda both of your faults. I think you should try to be honest and tell him how you feel about the situation and try to make him understand.
2006-11-14 08:18:44 · answer #1 · answered by baby gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance IS tough (I've experienced it)
because of the lack of regular interaction, frustration (cannot go out together much, don't have sex together much, etc), no body language on the phone (a webcam might help?), each small thing can become an issue, a source of conflict.
the only solution is to organise the next get together, for a real life update.
but i have not seen a long distance that worked for more than about a year, if that. so be careful
2006-11-14 16:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by AntoineBachmann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change your feelings. Sometimes honesty hurts. If he continues to have this childish reaction, then he simply is not emotionally mature enough to handle a relationship and needs to grow and mature. You can't blame yourself for telling him the truth. Not all relationships are forever and that's okay.
2006-11-14 16:11:50 · answer #3 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, why would you blame youself just move on hun. Like you said, it was long distance from the start. Who know what he could have been doing.
Try dating someone closer to where you are.
2006-11-14 16:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by Rabbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. Hard, but the only way.
Yes blaming yourself works. But hey, mistakes don't mean a thing if you don't regret them.
2006-11-14 16:15:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋