I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months, we're in love, best relationship I've ever been in, etc. Anyway, prior to him I had limited sexual experiences. We generally have sex at least twice a week, but I feel like I'm not fulfilling him. He hasn't complained or anything, but he's had a lot more experience than I've had. How can I make sure it's good for him? I've asked, but he says it's fine. I don't want fine. I want it to be good for him. Great even. Any advice? Fellas, what do you like? I'm a little shy at initiating, but I'm trying to get over that.
2006-11-14 08:05:52 · 14 answers · asked by S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm assuming you're at least 18 but if not then some of this you can't do. Take a stroll through sex shop...I'm serious! Pick up one or two items you'd be interested in trying. He'll love the fact that you're willing to spice things up and try something new not to mention YOU'RE the one who brought it up! Try watching porn with him and giving him oral during. Different positions and different ways of doing foreplay help make a difference between fine and an awesome. Oral is a big deal to guys so try new things with oral...whipped cream, honey dust (helps make their erections harder and last longer)...licking things off each other can be very sensual. Also, do a little striptease and lap dance for him. It's hard to do it without laughing at yourself the first time around but he'll love the fact that you're trying. Don't be afraid to purchase a book or two (you can find great books at Borders or Barnes and Nobles). Hope some of this helps you out and good luck! Don't worry you'll get better with time, after all practice makes perfect.
2006-11-14 08:14:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush it. As you become more comfortable with each other and you grow closer, you will begin to communicate more. As your relationship grows so will your trust in each other. Learning together what pleases the other partner comes with time. If he talks openly with you then believe him when he says it is ok. The better sex comes later in a relationship. It is making love not having sex. Which is what most people are having at first, just sex. Relax and enjoy.
2006-11-14 16:21:59 · answer #2 · answered by Donald S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to an adult store. There are books on that.
Try sexy negligee that you like that will boost your confidence and try porn films. You dont have to do what they do just get some ideas.
But definately go get the books.
And one more thing. His greatest turn on is you.
If its blowing your mind possibilities are high that his is blowing too.
2006-11-14 16:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be the same way. I started reading books and looking at pornos. They really help. You guys can try some of the moves in the porno's.
2006-11-14 16:08:22 · answer #4 · answered by Super Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax and Listen to him, if he said its fine then its fine, besides, your a person to who should have there needs met also.
2006-11-14 16:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by Peace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has to be good for both of you. but if you are looking to impress him look at some porn and give him a B J that he will never forget that always does it for me.. good luck
2006-11-14 16:12:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in order for it to be good for him it must be good for you too! men enjoy themselves better if they know you r enjoying it! am i right guys? so tell him what YOU like, and if your not sure figure it out!
2006-11-14 16:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by butterfly79333 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its important, wen having sex, to UNDERSTAND ur partner. try different positions until u find one that u like.
2006-11-14 16:07:51 · answer #8 · answered by goldensamm 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what his favorite thing is (with regards to sex)?
2006-11-14 16:07:40 · answer #9 · answered by WyoHunter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ***** lay the pussy on him the right way and it wouldn't be no problems
2006-11-14 16:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by Maurice W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋