Should i give her a try?

Question

I have took this girl out for times in 3 weeks because i like her and get on with her. Last friday she slept with someone while she was out. She told me and she said i would hate her for it.
I really get on with her but should i persue this any further. I dont know really because i dont know if we were in a relationship or not. Does going out and huggin and smooching constitue a relationship and should i stay away now?

I phoned her she replied below ? what does it mean?

She said:
"look i do like you but im not sure where we are going. and i won't do it again, it was a mistake and its doing my head in just thinking about it."

Answer 1

Well...after a guy and I started dating for a couple of weeks, I slept with a previous boyfriend. That was the last time I ever slept with another person. I told the guy because I didn't want him finding out from someone else, and I felt the need to be completely honest with him because I really respected him. Everything worked out, and the guy and I have been married for 15 years.

Answer 2

When a relationship starts it usually means very intense feelings - you can't stop thinking about that person, and want to spend a lot of time with them, getting to know them and working out whether it's the start of something special. What you don't do is casually sleep with someone else on a night out. If she'll do that at the beginning of something then what will she do in a few months time when the honeymoon period has passed?

Answer 3

Don't worry about who she slept with. If ya'll didn't actually have the "relationship" talk, then ya'll aren't in a relationship. This is called "dating".

Tell her you don't hate her for it, but ask her if she'd like to persue a monogamous relationship with you (if that's what you want).

Or if it really bothers you that she hooked up, let her go.....so at least she can hook up w/someone else - guilt free. ;)

Answer 4

i say yes, because o the fact that you took her out, and she knew your intentions, shemight just like to be. "friends with benefits" but that is a hard thing to go through knowing the girl you like might be, "benefiting" another guy. trust me i know, i have done that to guys, and i learned from my mistakes. she dont appreciate you so move on. she knew it was wrong and did it anyways, hence her telling you you would hate her for it.

Answer 5

The first red flag - and nothing else matters - she slept with someone else!! I am sorry man - she's just not that into you. She's using your niceness to get a free meal! You can find a nice gal out there - not not her!

Answer 6

If you don't know whether the two of you are dating exclusively or not, then you probably aren't. If it bothers you that she slept with someone else, then stop pursuing her..if it doesn't then keep after her and show her it doesn't matter.

Answer 7

she doesnt think you are in a realationship.

personally if im only dating a guy i can still date or sleep with someone else.
if i have been asked out or have asked a guy out and the answer was positive then we are going out and are an item and i would not sleep with anyone else.

Answer 8

You've only been together 3 weeks and she's already cheated on you?

How's she going to be acting in 3 months?

Answer 9

No, give her a miss, move on and find someone new, whether you were in a relationship or not, she decided to sleep with someone else, not waiting to see were this relationship with you was going.........good luck and god bless.

Answer 10

just for the very fact that you are asking this question the obvious answer has to be no you should find someone who is worth all the effort you make.