Help coming up with a discipline chart. Something creative.?

Question

Thinking of doing "3 strikes you're out". Any ideas? Being "out" will be losing t.v. time, friend time...

Answer 1

Focus more on helping them to understand they are actually in control of what happens to them. Let them know kindly but firmly what is not acceptable and what the consequences are for that. A chart is a good idea but only for rewarding their good behavior. Always focus on the positive.

Answer 2

It all depends on the age of the child. We just started giving our 8 yr old and allowance. So she has a binder that has her chore chart in it along with a list of rules and consequences for bad behavior. She gets to place a sticker in the square of each completed chore but also has to record any monetary losses due to breaking the rules although not all punishments are loss of allowance, there is also timeouts, and loss of tv time depending on the severity of her actions. At the end of the week we add up the chores, subtract the losses and give her the difference. By having her record both the positive and the negative she must acknowledge her bad behavior as well as her accomplishments. This helps her to better realize the consequences of her actions. She never gets more than one warning on bad behavior though. We also made her sign a contract that she has read and agrees with all the rules so if she ever says she didn't know that something was a rule or that we are being unfair, the contract is a reminder. If you are going to do a discipline chart you should really have a reward chart as well so that your child does not feel that you are singling out their negative behavior without acknowledging their positive accomplishments. Choosing punishments though should reflect specifically on your child. If they dont watch tv that often taking it away means nothing but if they love to play on the computer taking that away will have a huge impact. Also the severity of the punishment should correlate directly to the severity of the action. If you really want to do 3 strikes and you're out, then instead of 3 warnings then punishment you could do something like the first time they talk back its a warning, the 2nd time they talk back its a time out, the 3rd time its loss of privilege for the day, anything after 3 its grounded for one week. That way they learn that repeatedly breaking the same rule has gradually increacing consequences but they still get one warning to modify their behavior.

Answer 3

I'm in the process of coming up with a reward chart. Totally backwards from what you're wanting, I know. I'm listing all my four year old daughter's things she has to do. Pick up her toys, put her clothes away, brush her teeth, etc. Yes, she can do all that. When I only have to tell her once, or not at all, she will get a sticker or star, whatever I have around at the moment. If I have to tell her more than twice, no sticker. Then, at the end of the week, I'll tally up her stars. She gets so many points for every star she has, and can trade them in for extra time on the TV, staying up at night for ten extra minutes, whatever. Or, she can save them for something she really wants, like a movie with Mom or a new toy. Something like that. I'm not eager on discipline charts because they only show the bad things your kids do, and not the good. Some people will say this is a bribe system, but I don't think so, since she knows that she has a certain amount of stuff to do before she can have her prize.

Answer 4

Why would you put the child into a "loosing" mode? I used a "behavioral" chart. She earned her privelges rather than LOOSING rights. If she behaved all day she got an hour's worth of televison/video/games. If she didn't behave she didn't earn the time. It is much easier being rewarded than having something that was given to you taken away. Would YOU like to have a car and then have someone come along and take it away because you didn't pick up your toys like you were supposed to? Or how about your house would you like to have your house taken away because you stuck your tongue out at the mail man? You're setting the kid up to loose because eventually the child knows "If I don't behave I'll have it taken away so what is the point in behaving to begin with?"

Answer 5

It depends on the child.
1. Never give a child three opportunities to do wrong. Explain the expectation and the consequences and follow through.
2. Your word is law for this child and the punishment should be consistant with the offense (but nurturing, teaching and consistant).
3. Never threaten and don't let everyone dicsipline your angel.
4. Take away toys and other fun things (for a little while).
5. Never set the bar too high (remember age appropriate).
6. Communication is IMPORTANT (is carries on after they reach their teens).
7. Chores!

Answer 6

A ladder chart helps the children become aware and therefore responsible for their behavior, as they are the ones to move their pegs. You'll find an example if you look up the Dilly ladder discipline.I put some links in for you. It's all about positive reinforcement. Good luck.

Answer 7

Instead of a "punishment chart" make a chart rewarding good behavior. Make a SHORT list of expectations and rewards for meeting those expectations. I'm not saying never punish a child, but if you keep it in a positive light you might be surprised how well your child will respond.

Answer 8

sounds good, But i perfer to show the positive things. I have sticker charts that are for good behaivior, and if they fill the charts up then they get to pick a treat/toy. Here is the site that I get the sticker charts off of. Mabey that will help you with what you want to do.

http://www.latitudes.org/behavioral_charts.html

Answer 9

thats good too but you should add something like... 1st srike is the warning 2nd strike is no t.v and 3rd strike is grounded or a day through week depending what bad thing he/she did.