So is it odd to be 37 years old, single, no children, sucessful, and cant seem to loacate any quality guys??

Answer 1

Your situation is not odd, in fact it is a growing trend -- that is to be a single, successful woman who finds it difficult to connect with an equally yoked man that is serious dating / marriage potential.

In general, the problems are both internal and external -- that is one's expectations, demeanor etc. vs. what's available.

So some things to evaluate:

Are you being too picky? Define your must have's and have not's and look that you have room in-between to date someone who is human rather than a ficticious prince.)

Your Schedule/ Work : What time do you have to devote to a relationship and when you are available are you socialable? A lot of men like a woman to be available (to travel, share interests etc.) but more and more appreciate a successful working woman. Still, you have to not only be available but appear to be. Are you sending the right vibes out that you are about more than your work?

As for the Men

Like woman, those over 35 have had their shares of bad relationships and/or are more cautious -- These relationships tend to start slower so one needs a little patience and the men may need more encouragement to know you are interested (yeah, back to high school days it seems).

Male egos seem to be more an issue as they grow older (mid age crisis) -- and certainly those less successful can become easily intimidated. The thing is to find a man secure in himself, but as well don't overwhelm him with your successes, consider his and exibit real interest.

Socializing -- it may take a little more creative effort to meet the right man. As they get older they may be more involved in their work or kids lives and difficult to find in a social scene. Consider your interests, groups you can join and certainly don't exclude online dating with a reputable company, often you'll find men in the same position -- successful and single -- sometimes without kids. It seems there are more women without kids.

Most importantly do what makes you happy and confident -- that will be a big plus in attracting the right type -- just beware of appearing too aloof.

Lastly, to be honest, there seems to be growing category of successful older men going for the 20-something year olds (at least temporarily), but it isn't the majority and don't let it get you down. Remember, it will be a sad day for these girls when they find they are over the hill at 29 ;-)

You are still young and am sure you have a lot to offer -- someone will notice, and when they do, take advantage of it.
Good Luck!

Answer 2

No, you cannot control the fact that there are so many jerks out there and many of them are intimidated by strong women who do not need. It is not odd at all. it sucks that the general quality of men is diminishing so quickly that pretty soon there will be none left. I mean i wish that I grew up in a time when men were men and they were not afraid to be men. They knew that opening doors and pulling out chairs was normal. Men who knew what mutual respect and consideration was and were shamed for exhibiting anything less. I know that all generations have "dogs" so to speak but now they are running ramped and there is no animal control in sight.

Answer 3

I don't think it is so odd at all today. Your career may have kept you from meeting someone with whom to share your life with or perhaps your knight in shining armour hasn't arrived yet. Keep the faith though as someday you will find a quality guy made just for you.

Answer 4

No - Im not your age yet but I can see the same thing in my crystal ball. Its a fact - there are no quality guys out there- or at least any that meet my standards. It is possibly to be happy without a man, and to have a life fulfilled with travel, work, friends etc.

Answer 5

I'm just a year older than you - been married, have kids, and in the same boat as you are... I have my own business & this scares men away. You ought to see them run when I say, I'm worried about my business going under! It's a great way to see who is really into me... I still have hope! In the mean time, I plan to live! You know, JUST LIVE... Someday the perfect guy will come your way. Just be aware of him when he does.

Answer 6

I'm in the same boat but Ive already realized there are no quality men. At least not a one that has all the qualities in one man.

Answer 7

the problem i see here is with the finding a quality guy...

at that age (35-45), i would think alot of the really good/nice guys have been taken up...

i would suggest you take a close look at a few things...

a. what kind of 'guy' you really want to be with
b. what kind of 'guy' you have been dating in the last few years
c. where you currently look for guys
d. where the kind of 'guy' you really want would be

i have a feeling that once you sit down and really think about those four points, you'll find a few problems with what you're doing, and where you're looking...

Answer 8

I guess that depends what your definition of "quality" is. I feel the same at 39 years old as a male.

Answer 9

You will eventually.
Think of it this way, there are millions and millions of people in this world. You haven't met every one of them. There is somebody out there for you, you just haven't bumped into the right one yet. Personally, I believe there is actually a handful of people in this big wide world for each of us and that it shouldn't be suprising that some of us just haven't met any of those handful along the way yet. But someday....

Answer 10

It's not odd at all!! Quality guys are hard to find and it's great that you are successful!!!