The babies father left me for an ex girlfriend who had cheated on him over 3 times. He broke my heart and I don't know if i will ever be able to trust another person again. . . But im willing to give it a shot. . . Do you think its a bad idea to start dating someone @ 20 weeks pregnant?
2006-11-14 07:40:35 · 21 answers · asked by Jessica D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all, i am so sorry you are in this position. i was in a similar situation not too long ago. i dont think it is a bad idea to date someone. you just have to be sure you are honest with the guys so that they know what they are getting themselves into. i dont think you should stop living because this guy was a creep to you. asfor the trust issues, i think it takes a long time to feel safe again after you have been betrayed (believe me, i know) take your time and dontr rush into anything. God bless you and you baby.
2006-11-14 07:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should put more focus on yourself and your unborn child. Men come and go all the time and you only have one shot at being a mother with THAT child. Stop thinking about men and start thinking about yourself and this baby. I do not understand women sometimes. What would make you want to be with another man right now, and won't the pickings be slim considering you are carrying another man's child. It is just a matter of valuing yourself and your child right now. More than you value being able to say that you have someone. I do not mean to sound harsh I mean well I just feel strongly about these types of things.
2006-11-14 15:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You oughta scrap dating a focus on your baby. if you go and have sex with other men while you're pregnant that can affect your baby for life both physically and mentally. Babies pick up on vibes of their mothers being with other men and you should give your body away to no one because despite the guy who left you for his cheating ex girlfriend, you are thinking about another person besdie him and you, your BABY! Forget trying a date a guy when you're about to start showing, the guy will think the ex will come back anytime so, anyway, and all he'll want is sex because he will sense you are going to be with him as a rebound! You need to leave dating alone and just focus on your baby.
2006-11-14 15:46:30 · answer #3 · answered by marquella_la_nice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a bad idea, but for your sake and whomever the next guy is, I would tell him that you are 20 weeks pregnant. That way you won't get too invested in the relationship and he freaks out on you and leaves. I would definitely not get back together with the father since he left you. He needs to grow up and realize that you are the mother of his children.
2006-11-14 15:44:47 · answer #4 · answered by *mxgirl115* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not a bad idea. when i was pregnant with my first his dad left state well i thought i would never trust a guy again and well i was 16 months pregnant when me and Joe got together well i had my first and Joe stayed with me then he got me pregnant and left me and want back to live with his mom in texas so now i have a boyfriend who is 1 year younger then me and i am 16 almost 17 with two kids not getting child support for either kid living with my exs mom and sister and ya just what ever you do do not get with someone who will leave ya again and make sure you get child support.
2006-11-14 15:57:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your unborn child comes first. But, if you have met someone who likes you; knows that you are pregnant; and is willing to accept the fact that you will (hopefully) have some constant communication with the father of your child.......go for it. Do not try to live your life for your child's father. If he did it to you once, the chances are that he will do it again. If he left you for his ex who has a history of cheating on him......he loves drama!!!!! Move on and enjoy your life.
2006-11-14 15:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I'm a guy (26 years old), and i'll tell you. I wouldn't mind dating a woman that had 1 kid to much, as long as she's not shoving the kid down my throught... a woman that's pregnant, i wouldn't date... unless it's my own baby:)
sorry, but that's me...
on a different note, i wouldn't have a problem with being a good friend to a pregnant woman, and helping her in any way i could if we were good friends... and it could later turn into a romantic relationship... but while she's pregnant, no, and even while the baby was new born, i wouldn't want to date her...
2006-11-14 15:44:00 · answer #7 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a whole I would say yes but there is that rare man out there who will start to date you and actually stick around. One of my really good friends was in almost your exact situation. She started dating this guy and now they are getting married next spring. Her daughter is now 7mo. Like I said tho he is a rarity.
I am so sorry that happened to you! Good luck I wish you and your baby the best! :)
I wish your babies daddy boils and sores.
2006-11-14 16:02:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine started dating a new guy when she was 35 wks. They now have a beautiful little one who is my Godson and they are getting married. Just make sure you take it slow and that you are really over the father of your child.
2006-11-14 15:45:25 · answer #9 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should not make any big, life altering decisions while you are pregnant. Pregnancy tends to alter a woman's hormones and her way of thinking. At least that is the case with my wife.
2006-11-14 15:43:07 · answer #10 · answered by Daddy of 5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋