This is the only problem that I have with him. We will be talking and if he sees blonde hair he will look at the person for a couple of seconds and linger on that person.
I have tried telling him my feelings that it hurts me and upsets me and he doesn't do it as much but he still does it.
I have tried checking out other men in front of him but it seems babyish to do what he's doing to me.
I was thinking about being tough with him and dropping him at his house if he does it again each and every time he does it. Does anyone have anything that works for them? Don't tell me that I'm being petty because it really bothers me and I don't blatantly check out other men in front of him.
2006-11-14 07:29:06 · 18 answers · asked by hope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Grow up and get over it. Let him look all he wants, as long as he doesn't touch. If he appreciates a good-looking woman, then it's a compliment that he's with you, isn't it?
2006-11-14 07:31:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure how long have you been dating this guy. If it is only recently...then that's a bad sign. He has no respect for you whatsoever. No point being with someone that hurts your feeling as it will be worsen after you get married. However if you still want to be with him, and could find somewhere inside you to forgive him, you might as well let him be. Maybe join him or give feedbacks to those blondes....and share both of your thoughts. Perhaps you may discover something with those blondes that he enjoys...or maybe you can start dressing like those (Bad idea huh?). Or who knows....perhaps he will tell you..."You look so much nicer than them". The point is, if you truly love someone, you have to love him as a whole, and that includes all his bad habits. The fact is you can never change a man to the way you wanted him to be. Nobody is perfect.
2006-11-14 16:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by iknowwhy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I ruined it for my husband when I started to point out beautiful women. Every time a saw a beautiful girl I would say "honey look at that chick" By letting him know that it does not bother you, he will do it less. Maybe he is trying to make you jealous. I did this for a while until he got the message. When he figured it out, he stopped. No point if it didn't bother me. Try this. It's reverse psychology and it will work. And there is no harm in looking as long as he does not touch. Besides beauty is beauty, be it man or women.
2006-11-14 16:01:08 · answer #3 · answered by SCORPIO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please pick this one:
You have to let him do what he wants but tell him how you feel about the situation if he good around the girls have a long talk with him. If he really isn't let him do his thing for a while untill it gets out of hand. When it comes to that sit him down and talk to him. My bF did the same he wasn't so good around the ladies once he got rejected from many other he said he was sorry and we hung out and he stopped it too a month to reel him in but if he or you is true you will wait on him give him his space.
2006-11-14 15:34:46 · answer #4 · answered by sweet pea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would firmly tell him how you feel this time. Doing it bluntly is often the trick. Guys are always going to look at other women...and women will always look at other men. As long as he's looking and not touching, I don't think you have anything to worry about. If he doesn't stop and it still bothers you, you need to move on. Find someone that only has eyes for you.
2006-11-14 15:35:05 · answer #5 · answered by *mxgirl115* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is what guys do.
Guys are very visual and like to look at women. Beautiful women. Girls are not visual, they are more attracted to intangible things like confidence, success, etc. It is nothing against you. It doesnt mean he doesnt care for you. Its just how it is. The best thing you can do is either ignore him or even talk with him about it.
My girlfriend knows this is how I am so she even points out attractive women to me when she sees them. Just because guys like to look does not mean that they care about the person they are looking at. It's simply eye candy, kind of like a lambourgini murcliago.
2006-11-14 15:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by pfr305 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a taste of his own medicine. Look at other men. Better yet check out the women with him. Freak him out. Make a comment about her. "Hey she's hot I'd do her. "
2006-11-14 16:15:10 · answer #7 · answered by sxyalmond 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends the way he looks at them. There is no harm looking but if he looks to much or says stuff, then you should tell him to stop!. He is with you why does he need to look at other girls? You should also look at other guys too, so he knows how it feels
2006-11-14 15:33:48 · answer #8 · answered by kathernva 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Slap him upside the back of the head the next time he does it, if he asked why you did it, tell him if he does it again you are history, he will think twice before he does it again.
2006-11-14 15:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by droopydog88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say something bout girl-cause good luck stopping them-they can't. used to bother me-not at all now. Or just get rid of him. 2 good ways
2006-11-14 15:31:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋