Ok this stuff has gone too far I hate it. Im 19 years old and my sis is 18. I know its not much of an age difference but im the older and i should get treated like that, but i dont. Im quiet and not that talkative and my sis is kinda loud and more outgoin. She always tries to protect me and i hate it. Everyone looks at her as bein my big sister like im weak or sometin and they make it seem like she has to protect me. Lets jus put it this way she gets more respect than me. My mom always treats her like shes older, she even talked bout buyin her a car before me and didnt even offer to help me buy one. How do i get this to change? I already confronted them about it but they take like its no big deal but to me it is. I want more respect, should i be more outgoin? What should i do?
2006-11-14 07:19:20 · 15 answers · asked by John 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No offense, but I'll just give it to you straight:
Boo Friggen Hoo.
You earn respect, you don't demand it. Sounds like you're getting all the respect you deserve.
I'll give you credit. You've at least taken the first step and recognized the situation. Many never get that far. Next step is to get your act and your life together, quit whining and stop looking for your Mama and Sis to take care of you.
BTW there's nothing wrong with admiring your Sis and being happy that she's got it together. Forget your ages, if she worthy of being looked up to, look up to her and be glad you've got a great Sis.
2006-11-14 09:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by Zee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That does sound tough... Yes its not right that you are being treated as the youngest. Especially for a guy, you should be getting privilages first being your the oldest, so you can set an example to your lil sis, not the other way round. Dont give up on this subject with your parents.
Your sis may be getting things faster because she is the baby of the family. Which leaves you feeling left out and overlooked.
So youre quite and not so loud as your sister, theres nothing wronge with being a quite person. Just dont be afriad to speak up and tell them what you think. Talk to your parents about wanting more privilages, wanting responsiblity so you can grow up and mature, like every man does. Your parents will respect you for that attitude.
Say if your sis gets her way, and gets a car first..its OK. Just take a deep breath and buy a car yourself, showing you dont have to depend on mom & dad for one, your a man, your old enough to make your own decisions in life. Good luck on everything!
2006-11-14 15:30:49 · answer #2 · answered by Such A Chicka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't let the small stuff bother you . Girls can be more mature than boys at those ages.I used to knock the crap out of boys when I was really young to protect my brother and that means she really love you. Wow, a car? Maybe your mom was just agreeing with your sister , I would put my 2 cents and say so mom, sister and I will share the car.Sister gets these days I get it the other. You want respect are you going to school, college or do you have a job?Respect is earned and not always given. Speak up more and don't keep everything bottled up inside
2006-11-14 15:31:16 · answer #3 · answered by Monet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A parent could have six children and all six of them would have different personalities. Even with twins, each has their own personality. My two youngest daughters (I have three) are 5 and 6 years old. They are eleven months and 3 weeks apart. Which means that they are both the same age for exactly one week. The five year old will turn 6 and the six year old turns seven a week later. Sure enough, my 5 year old is more outspoken, more energetic, more aggressive (haha) than her older sister. It is just a fact of life. There are some people who mature faster or slower than others. And don't get offended by that....your personality is just more calm and conservative. And females are always bossier than males. Not to mention that statistics report that girls mature faster than boys anyway. Just suck it up......let your sister look out for her brother; it gives you an idea of how you want or don't want your girlfriend/wife to be.
2006-11-14 15:27:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother is 29 and I am 25 (almost 26). I am treated as the more responsible/outgoing party, as your sister is.
If you want to be treated with more respect, you must give more respect. Yes, try being more outgoing. Do good. Go to school, keep your job, make your own money if you can (don't ask them for it).
The only reason I get treated as if I'm older is because I act older and am doing good for myself. My parents can SEE that I'm more responsible than he is (and it's true).
First thing you should do is stop acting like it is such a big deal. Maybe they're blowing you off because in their eyes it's like you're having a fit.
Act like it doesn't bother you, and get on with your life. Start looking towards your future. If you are not in school, maybe you should be in school or at least working towards something. Make them feel like you DESERVE to be treated with more respect, and the respect will follow.
2006-11-14 15:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all just know that they love you, and that's why most of that is happening. Ask your family to sit down and politely say that you understand that they love you and they want to protect you but you want to be treated more as an adult. Make sure you don't sound whiny, because the way you talk to them affects how the whole entire conversation will go. Also, if you talk and act like an adult, they will treat you like one, but if you act and talk like a child, that is how they will treat you. Good luck and remember the biggest thing, BE POLITE!
2006-11-14 15:23:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not really to do with being outgoing, i would say.
Girls generally are more mature, speially in ur age group.
theres just a year between u , thats nothing.
You shouldn't give it muh thought, in time it'll be fine.
some siblings r more demanding, they get more attention, thats all,its a personality trait. Be what u r. dont alter.
Not all loud ppl get attention, at least not the rite kind.
You sound like a mature person. Stay that way. Before long things will hange.
2006-11-14 15:26:35 · answer #7 · answered by saltnsaffron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
19 ?buy your own car!!! If you are still in school,then get a part time job.Act grown up, maybe then you will get the respect.Until you change ,don't expect to be treated any different than what you are use to.Step up to the plate young man!!!!
2006-11-14 15:27:42 · answer #8 · answered by Thomas P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you might just have to do that to get more respect. If you act all anti-social how could someone know if you are older than your sister or not. Do what you gotta do to, if you wanna be reconized as the big brotha.
2006-11-14 15:26:38 · answer #9 · answered by daimond_princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could..
Act your age, and stop whinning like a little Baby.. Maybe then you'd be treated like an adult..
Besides your 19.. Your parent's shouldn't be helping you buy a car.. Buck up.. they help you wipe too?
-HtJ
2006-11-14 15:27:17 · answer #10 · answered by hesterthehester 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋