Is it rude that I got my engagement ring appraised? Is I rude if I tell him I did? Should I just not tell him? It's not like i keeping something bad from him....or is this bad?
2006-11-14 07:00:48 · 30 answers · asked by pamelajt913 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I should have proofed that question before I hit submit sorry for the errors....I'm 25 and I type horrible
2006-11-14 07:02:27 · update #1
I wish I didn't do it now after reading some comments. I did it more so just to learn what was on my finger the rest of my life...to learn about my diamond....clarity, imperfections(which there are many)...it doesn't make me less appreciate it.
2006-11-14 07:18:40 · update #2
Why didn't he give you the card that comes with it (from the jewelry store) that tells about it (cut, clarity, size, value, etc.)??
My fiance gave me the card w/ the enlarged picture on it ... (just got engaged last week, too) ... going back to the store to get it sized in a couple weeks.
2006-11-16 17:00:42 · answer #1 · answered by jnsparrow 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends WHY you did it. A smart bride should have her ring appraised and then insured so you can afford to replace it should it ever be lost or stolen. I'm sure your fiance would agree that it is a wise decision in that case.
If you had it appraised because you think he would by a fake, or because you care that much about the value, you are getting married for the wrong reasons.
2006-11-14 17:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him, unless you had it done for insurance purposes, in which you should only bring it up if the topic of insurance comes up. If you're trying to make sure he didn't get snowed by the jeweler, I could understand it, but only if he asked for this kind of help in the first place. Don't tell him, and for heaven's sake, keep the appraisal receipt at your mother's or someplace else where he won't accidentally find it.
Really, if you had the ring appraised for any reason OTHER than insurance, that was just plain tacky.
2006-11-14 15:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by nosleepthree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you really did it because you wanted to know the value more than anything else. If that is the case, then yes, I think it is rude and I would be upset to say the least.
If you had it appraised for insurance purposes, that would make good sense and you would have asked him to do it or at least told him about it in advance.
2006-11-14 15:34:12 · answer #4 · answered by jarhed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only good reason I can think of to have the engagement ring appraised is so that you can add it to your homeowners or renters insurance policy. This way, if the ring is lost or stolen, you can get a replacement. Appraising it to see if he paid enough is incredibly tacky and immature. If you've already done it, add it to your insurance policy and let him know that. Eventually, he'll find out and then he'll be hurt or mad that you kept a secret from him.
2006-11-14 15:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by Susan G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you know him best. Would something like this upset him? Why did you get it appraised in the first place? If it was for insurance then okay but if it was just you wanting to know how much he spent then not so good, but thats my opinion. I think its more the why then the act itself. I would be open and honest with him. Once you start hiding things some times its hard to stop.
2006-11-14 15:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by workless 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG hunny why did you do that?? Do not by any means tell him! This could scare the sh*t out of him. In a weird way I understand your curiosity in wanting to do it but I am still confused as to why you actually went through with it?? I am curious as hell to as to how much mine was but in a "we're all human" kind of way. If he finds out this looks so superficial and materialistic that it could ruin the guy and deeply offend him. I hope whatever you were told regarding value, clarity, imperfections does not forever taint your perception of the ring or even worse of your fiance?? Good Luck with this...
2006-11-14 15:57:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your motives may be in question. It makes sense to have the ring appraised for insurance reasons, but if you just want to know what he paid then your intentions were wrong.
2006-11-14 16:03:20 · answer #8 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not rude to have it appraised, with his knowledge, for insurance purposes. To have it appraised, without his knowledge, to see what kind of ring he bought you, then yes that was a little rude. I got a solution. Tell him you want to have your ring appraised for insurance purposes, and then you and him, together, take it to a different appraiser. Problem solved.
2006-11-14 15:43:09 · answer #9 · answered by GreeneyedCowgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, let's see....you had to ask if having your engagement ring (a ring that is means he wants to spend the rest of his life with you) appraised is rude/wrong/whatever. YES!!! If the amount is all you are interested in, then I feel sorry for him. I hope if you do/did do it, he does find out and maybe he will re-think what he is getting himself into!!!! Shame on you!!!!!
2006-11-14 15:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by bellebelle113 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why did you get appraised. It shouldn't matter how much it cost, that in my opinion is very rude. All that should matter is that he loves you and the ring was a gift from the heart. I think it would crush him if he knew. I think you need to reevaluate your relationship if you do not trust him enough and have to have the ring appraised.
2006-11-14 15:05:10 · answer #11 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋