I've been married for 2 years now and everytime at Christmas, my husband and I get into a fight about Christmas. I don't see the problem in my kids believing in Santa. My husband thinks that I'm lying to the kids because my husband's mom pushed the fact that Santa wasn't real. I think that it's wrong to tell kids that Santa isn't real. Santa and Christmas is a big part of a child's life.
2006-11-14 06:52:04 · 23 answers · asked by tiffd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have to agree with you 1000%. Believe in Santa is part of childhood experiences that most of us remember fondly. Unless your kids are in their 30's and still have a fascination for him there is nothing unhealthy about this while lie at all. My kids are all aged 21 - 31 and they still look forward to stockings hung up by the jolly old fella.
2006-11-14 06:55:37 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest, the only time you truely enjoy christmas is when you're young. santa is a big part of that, it makes the magic and anticipation of christmas happen. it's a feeling you can't describe, but once you learn that santa is not real then you know the feeling is gone. wouldn't it be sad if they were the only child in their class who didn't have that? to be honest i kinda feel that you are depriving kids of an exciting part of childhood if you tell them santa isn't real.
i'm willing to say that even though i'm a christian, because i feel that as long as the balance is kept right you can still teach your kids the meaning of christmas.
also some people object to not getting acknowledgement from their kids because the children think the gifts are from santa. my parents solved all this by having 2 sets of presents - a stocking from santa in the morning with little things eg. small toys, chocolates, a book/cd etc, and then later we would get our big gifts knowing that they were not from santa. it might sound weird, but thats how we were brought up - the best of both!
2006-11-14 07:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by sky_blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a little boy in my son's class who does not celebrate any holidays (not due to religious beliefs). His parents have told him their is no Santa. He lashes out at the other kids at Christmas. He tells them they are idiots and their parents buy all the presents. The class has gone on several "holiday related" field trips (pumpkin patches, Christmas songs for seniors, etc) and he is not allowed to go. He has to stay in the library alone while all his friends go. Is this a better childhood than finding out there is no Santa? I do not even remember when I found out there was no Santa but I remember all the wonderful years I anticipated his arrival. Now I am a mother of three and I love being Santa.
2006-11-14 08:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think there is anything wrong with children believing in Santa Claus. When I was growing up, my parents never spoke about Santa. They said it was basically for idiots. All my friends believed in Santa. Some may argue the fact that we are teaching our children a lie. But Children are children. They have an imagination. I tell my children about Santa, it is fun. When they grow up they will obviously know the truth. But for now they are having fun. I don't think because they believe in Santa Clause and then they find out its not true that they will turn out to be serial rapists! Let the children be children. ITs so much fun. They enjoy it . I agree with you... its all about being Christmas. Let them be kids.
2006-11-14 06:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is important for children to learn faith. I think believing in a kind, giving spirit that arrives one evening to bestow gifts and joy upon those he doesn't know is a great thing. Santa is in the SPIRIT of Christmas (as it stands today) and he is a real part of the culture of growing up in America. It is important for children to learn that giving is not for the ability to be recognized for the deed. I remember looking back at all the Christmas's that my parents provided my brother and I. Santa always was recognized for the gifts my parents worked hard to purchase. The lesson of selfless giving is what I walked away with. On the other hand...don't push Santa like its a cult. I know children, as young as 2 or 3, that have not bought into Santa. When I finally approached my mom about Santa, she always said that he lives with those that believe. Just as one who believes in God, a god, Jesus, Buddha, angels, ghosts, Bigfoot - it is not seeing that is believing.
2006-11-14 06:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by stargazergirl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck I am 38 years old and I still believe in Santa...Christmas is my mother's favorite time of the year and she LOVES to give gifts....She has always told us that when we quite believing Sant quits coming...So there fore I still believe...lol...To me and in my family it is part of the spirit and I don't think the children should be deprived of the "special" memories that come with Santa...Now days they know better by age 5 or 6 so why not let them be little?...They grow up so very fast...enjoy them and the magic that comes only at Christmas....Ask your husband to lighten up just a bit about it and enjoy the expression on the children's face....If they ask tell them the truth but let them believe as long as you can...By the way, my daughter wants to be the tooth fairy when she grows up!! *cute*...lol...perhaps she will!
2006-11-14 07:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We stifle children's ability to be creative when we stop doing make believe ourselves. I am so disappointed in parents who take that away childhood from their kids! I have two children and since both sets of parents love the Santa thing, my kids get 3 visits from Santa! Is it awful that seeing joy on our children's faces is provided by a little creativity? I don't remember any child being that upset/angered when the illusion of Santa was over. Why ruin it while they are still young? (Once my children ask me straight about Santa, I will not lie, but until then: HO Ho HO!
2006-11-14 11:26:36 · answer #7 · answered by alicia0821 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Santa is real! Just make your children do not be disappointed with presents what they want. try to buy a right gift. All my life I was asking for princess dress but I never get it. but any way there were toys and mystery to find something under pillow every Christmas's morning. I have 2 kids.
2006-11-14 06:57:36 · answer #8 · answered by armn2ka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, where is that old NY Sun Editorial about Santa...Here is a copy of the editorial on this. The original came in 1897 from a little girl asking this question.
I say this, I still believe in the concept of Santa. He is real as long as we want him to be real. The joy of passing down the secret and the joy in my children's eyes...I will never let them lose that belief.
2006-11-14 06:56:58 · answer #9 · answered by goldenfir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he want to be a kill joy? When they get old enough and start asking questions about Santa, just say Santa is real if you believe it in your heart. Until then, let them cherish these days of being little.
2006-11-14 06:55:47 · answer #10 · answered by Mustang Sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋