Was I wrong and did I get what I deserved ?

Question

I went through my girls phone the other day and found a text from a male friend of hers stating "I am on da way.. u got rubbers?" roughly 10 mins after I got off the phone with you (I did the cross reference with my phone) On top of that, she has been real distant for the last 2 weeks making me real insecure leading upto the phone incident. I questioned her about it and she said they play like that and dude didnt mean to cause such a riff between the two. I even asked to meet the dude and she said he agreed. I am far from accusing, but that was a major blower.

My girl knows that I have an trust issue and told me she wouldnt do anything to aggitate that..... so why would she do anything to jepordize that?

Answer 1

Could be innocent, but it's still nasty and not appropriate. She either needs to learn what it means to be respectful to her man, or she needs to be shown the door, with a boot to her fanny.

Answer 2

yeah i say that to my buddies girfriends all the time in personal text messages

HORSECRAP

yeah meet that dude make sure it's in private not public so the cops don't get called imidiately be all really pissed and intense and intimidating like flying off the handle you'll be able to tell within the first five minutes if they're screwing because he'll be nervous and she'll be trying to play it off and the tension will be too much to take. if you think they've been doin it......ohhhh son beat that fool cross eyed

Answer 3

Just like you, we can only speculate. It could be a joke or she could be a liar, we don't really know. But if you two have trust issues, real or imagined, you might need to re-evaluate your relationship. The problems will only get worse if they are not addressed now.

Answer 4

First off...You shouldn't have gone thru her phone. No matter how close, everyone needs to have their own "private" space and it should be respected. From that "private" space is where trust comes from.
She sounds pretty confident and honest.
But...Something that she may not know...Guys don't joke that way. He really means it and he is fishing for her reaction. She may take it as just flirting but you know as well as I do...That's how guys fish.

Answer 5

first of all, relationship is all about trust and u need to learn to trust her first. second of all, i have guy friends and we joke around like that and if she agreed so quickly for you to meet this guy, i dont see that u have a real problem. just dont go through her phone, private property buddy

Answer 6

I don't think you were wrong to go through her phone. A relationship is an investment and any man that doesn't keep tabs on his investment is a fool. You apparently were right to look and I sincerely doubt they were just joking. I think she is cheating on you.

Answer 7

She is cheating...

You need to tell her that she shouldnt allow her 'friends' to 'play' with her like that... even if nothing is going on, it still looks really really bad on her part.

I would break up with her and move along to someone either more loyal, or more mature... or both.

Answer 8

Sounds like her male friend was trying to be funny. I think you were wrong to go through her messages but it sounds pretty innocent to me.

Answer 9

she could just BE distant lately........going through her stuff shows that you don't trust her and you're gonna see things and not understand them and take them out of context. maybe she's just joking around with this friend of hers. do u believe her or not? make your move..this kinda thing could eat away at you.

Answer 10

DUDE, she's bonking the guy, okay? I don't care what she told you, she's lying through her teeth. Wake up and smell the pig sh*t dude!