I'm about to blow up and do something stupid, what can I do?

Question

At 14 I'm going through a really bad phase. My realtinship with my parents was destroyed a year ago when they punished too harsh and I got extremely resentful. It's true I was doing wrong stuff but they didnt act as parents, but just as Law and showed no love. For a year I could bear with this situation but these days I've been really deprtessed, no one to share my problems with, no one to give me advice, I feel lonely, sad, depressed and alone. It's been hard to sleep at night. It's bad yo feel alone in your home.
I'm a kinda good student, most people like me, I get comfort in voluteering activities, but sometimes I wish I didnt exist. Maybe this is just a phase, but it's hard to deal with this. Sometimes I feel like doing something stupid.
Ok, I don't kow how to describe how I feel. What could I do? talking with my parents is out of the question.

Answer 1

First of all, don't do anything stupid. Things are going to happen in life that you will not like or agree with, especially rules and things made by your parents and even more at your age too. I went through a tough time when I was your age as well. You have to keep your head up and leave it all in Gods hands. Pray your heart out and leave the rest to God. Don't say you wish you didn't exist because your here for a reason and everything is going to work out fine for you. If you would like to talk you can e-mail me and let things off your chest. God be with you and bless you today and always.

Answer 2

Alright, first of all listen to everyone else on here whoi s saying "don't do anything stupid!!!" They are right. I know you are going through a really tough time right now, and believe me every kid your age does at some point or another. Maybe not as bad as you feel things are, but they do, believe me. Things will always get better, you just have to be willing to wait it out.
You have shown that you value yourself and are a very confident person by listing your positives!!! Keep thinking about this. Think of all the people you help when you volenteer. It sounds like you have many friends too, find comfort in them. You don't even have to tell them how you are feeling, just be with them and have fun!!!
Now you are 14, so I assume you are still in school. This means you are NEVER alone when you are having these types of feelings!!! There is always someone you can talk to at school...Teachers, counselors, your principal, even the maintenance staff is there to help you. Please talk to them, I am begging you!!!!!
My sister-in-law attempted suicide when she was 14 years old. Thank God she was caught and helped. Unfortunately though, when she was 22 she succeded. She did what you are describing, she didn't talk to anyone. She felt alone and that things would never get better. She was a very loving, and talented woman. If she would have been in her right mind she would have never have done this because she would have realized how badly she would have hurt the people she loved. It has been three years now and the hurt is not getting any better.
Please, do not do this to yourself, or the people who love you! Talk to someone at school, the library, the doctors office, even someone at the store. Please get help before you feel it is too late.

Answer 3

Okay...can you climb out of your head for a minute. It sounds like your talking about hurting yourself, which is as you describe "stupid".
If you have done something really wrong, then it is out of love that your parents punished you severely. They are trying to protect you and teach you not to do bad things. Sometimes it may seem harsh, but you will understand when you have children of your own.
If you still have thoughts of hurting yourself, you need to seek help right away. Talk to the school counselor or nurse, sometimes they can offer you some help. Your parents need to know how you feel so they can help you to be better.

No matter how bad it feels now, it will get better. I promise you. Being young is really hard and I wouldn't go back even if you paid me. Just stop thinking about being depressed, and start trying to have some fun. Most of your problem sounds like you're dwelling on being sad and you're stuck in that negative head space. Get some excersise, it releases endorphins and makes you feel really good.

Answer 4

Go see a counsellor at school or at hospital or your doctor.
Most 12-16 year old kids go through something like this. It's called growing up and trying to find a place in the world. When you are about 18-21 you will find a new respect for your parents. Then as an adult you will get on fine with them. When the finally pass from this world you will think why didn't I make better use of the time I had them for. Thats what happened to me at least. Don't wait for them to die to start loving them, start now and believe me they will return the love to you times 10 and you will feel much better believe me. Please don't do anything that you may regret later. You will hurt more than just youself.
Good luck friend

Answer 5

You don't at all deny your parents had just cause. Later you will see they were concerned about you & took action before the big bad world took around out of you. This can be a mean, nasty world if a kid doesn't learn to deal with it. I hear something in your words, Depression. I think you truly need to talk to somebody. At 14 hard to see where to turn I know that.
A counselor at school Or if you are a member of a church, your pastor. Somebody who might be able to direct you to some help. Takes a alot of courage to take that first step but it could be worth the effort. They might even be able to help open up the void that exist between you & your parents. I suspect they would be very concerned if they knew you felt this bad. Do you have a gramma handy or an older sister. See if you can find away past these feelings of yours.

Answer 6

You need to talk with someone. Life is too short to be doing stupid things. Go to your Guidance Counselor at school for advise, maybe a Pastor at your church. If you are not religious - you can pick any church to seek out help. It is confidential. On the back of your help card should be information as well. All confidential. Sometimes parents have to do thing sour children don't agree with but you have to remember that we are only trying to help you and guide you in the right direction. It is not always easy for the parent either. I have a 12 yr old that is giving me a run for my money. It's called tough love. You will understand when you get older. but don't give up. If you need someone to talk to - please do not hesitate to write me back. Good luck - keep smiling and try your best at everything. And remember - it could be worse.

Answer 7

I'm going through the EXACT same situation right now. In fact, I just asked a question similar to that. I'm 14, too. I can't talk to my dad either (he's the one I'm having a problem with), because he's not an understanding person at all.

Talking to a counselor at school, I've heard, helps a lot. Maybe he or she can try to talk to your parent(s) into putting less pressure on you and giving you another chance before punishing you.

Feel free to e-mail me or something if you want to talk more.

Answer 8

Yes, it's a phase hon. You are 14, this is a critical time for you and your parents are just as scared of messing up as you are.

Your hormones are going crazy about now, not to mention you are beginning that break-away stage of development where you begin to step away from your parents rule and do things on your own.

Have you tried seeking counseling? If you go to a public school, there's a perfectly good counselor sitting in his/her office right now, just dying to listen to your problems, go talk to them!

One other thing, you might want to make a gynecological appointment if you have not already. With your hormones raging, you need a medical doctor to examine you as well.

Answer 9

This is all im giong to say to you.As a 25 year old women to a 14 year old.I don't know what you did to make your parents act so rash towards you because you did not give any detail
and don't worry, you don't have to but from the looks of it, it looks like you straight up made them look like they did not teach you anything.And if this is the case, then you need to start acting like you got some home training.Your parents are to have rule over you until you are old enough to move out on your own.At the age of 18 you should be well off enough to know how to act like a civilized young man/lady.If you do things like what you did, people are going to start treating you just the way your acting.(like a kid).You want to go on like you big and bad now you got to pay the price for what you did.That's life kid and you can't always get what you want out of life.You want good to come out, you have to put in good.

Answer 10

You may think u r the only one this crap happens to. At your age I was wild rebellious teen. I was not angry at parents. I just felt I did not want and would not abide by rules' like curfews, reporting in etc. I would stay out all night because they insisted I be home whatever time.
Now I have 15 yr. old daughter and it's all come back to bite me. I've learn ed to chill alittle u have to remember that tour parents do what they do because they are on your side. They will always be. You and them haven't got communication down great, but believe me they do not sit up nights scheming up ways to make you miserable. Safe, responsible,or mature but not miserable. It only comes across that way at your age. One day you will be saying or doing something with your daughter, and it will hit you! YIKES! ! I AM MY MOTHER!

and it won't be a bad thing.....MARY